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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 69188" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>If cognitive skills are an issue, have you tried simple teaching tools like a decision tree? (I'm sure you probably already have. I just thought I would ask though, in case you hadn't thought to use that tool in the life skills sense.)</p><p></p><p>A decision tree is a simple way for her to see the results of her choices. Sort of a tool to keep around to remind her what may happen if she chooses to have sex without using physical barrier protection every time, or if she chooses to eat french fries instead of fresh veggies or whatever.</p><p></p><p>Once you have done those things, once you have helped your child understand how to function to the best of her ability to do that, then you HAVE to step back.</p><p></p><p>You cannot do it for her, or she will never learn to do for herself.</p><p></p><p>We all need to learn to tell ourselves that it isn't going to be easy to do what needs to be done. Other parents are not facing the challenges we are facing. They will never understand and chances are, they would not be dealing with the issues we face as well as we are.</p><p></p><p>We need to learn to give ourselves credit for all the things we have done right. :smile:</p><p></p><p>And we need to acknowledge that it probably will never FEEL as though we have done it well ~ but given our circumstances, we have.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 69188, member: 1721"] If cognitive skills are an issue, have you tried simple teaching tools like a decision tree? (I'm sure you probably already have. I just thought I would ask though, in case you hadn't thought to use that tool in the life skills sense.) A decision tree is a simple way for her to see the results of her choices. Sort of a tool to keep around to remind her what may happen if she chooses to have sex without using physical barrier protection every time, or if she chooses to eat french fries instead of fresh veggies or whatever. Once you have done those things, once you have helped your child understand how to function to the best of her ability to do that, then you HAVE to step back. You cannot do it for her, or she will never learn to do for herself. We all need to learn to tell ourselves that it isn't going to be easy to do what needs to be done. Other parents are not facing the challenges we are facing. They will never understand and chances are, they would not be dealing with the issues we face as well as we are. We need to learn to give ourselves credit for all the things we have done right. [img]:smile:[/img] And we need to acknowledge that it probably will never FEEL as though we have done it well ~ but given our circumstances, we have. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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