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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 69209" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Skylark</p><p></p><p>I understand your worry. </p><p></p><p>Travis' maturity level is no where near his age of 21, add in the brain damage, other dxes, plus disabilities and who knows if he'll ever be able to live on his own as a functioning adult.</p><p></p><p>This might sound a bit strange. But after his last stroke with the polycythemia vera I had a wake up call. What right do I have to deny him every opportunity to live the life he wants? </p><p></p><p>Travis wants his own apartment. Who can blame him? He is 21 afterall. And honestly, while he lives here his siblings and husband tend to treat him like a 10 yr old. He's not really happy. Travis is hanging in a limbo between childhood and adulthood.</p><p></p><p>The last time Travis wanted an apartment it scared the heck out of me. I didn't tell him no, but I wasn't gung ho about the idea either. I think he gave up on the idea due to lack of enthusiasm.</p><p></p><p>Travis with the new job has plans to move out. I'm supporting him 100 percent. The whole thing still scares me. But this is something he wants, needs, and we'll never know if he can do it if he doesn't go out and try.</p><p></p><p>Although he doesn't know it, Travis is my one exception to the "you don't get to move back" rule. This is due to his disabilities. While I want to push him forward, I also have to be realistic. He could lose his vision completely at any time and need to move back during a rehab phase. He could suffer another stroke from the PV and also need rehab. Any number of things. So his moving back home would be decided based on the situation.</p><p></p><p>Plus easy child is organizing her life to also be his safety net.</p><p></p><p>hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 69209, member: 84"] Skylark I understand your worry. Travis' maturity level is no where near his age of 21, add in the brain damage, other dxes, plus disabilities and who knows if he'll ever be able to live on his own as a functioning adult. This might sound a bit strange. But after his last stroke with the polycythemia vera I had a wake up call. What right do I have to deny him every opportunity to live the life he wants? Travis wants his own apartment. Who can blame him? He is 21 afterall. And honestly, while he lives here his siblings and husband tend to treat him like a 10 yr old. He's not really happy. Travis is hanging in a limbo between childhood and adulthood. The last time Travis wanted an apartment it scared the heck out of me. I didn't tell him no, but I wasn't gung ho about the idea either. I think he gave up on the idea due to lack of enthusiasm. Travis with the new job has plans to move out. I'm supporting him 100 percent. The whole thing still scares me. But this is something he wants, needs, and we'll never know if he can do it if he doesn't go out and try. Although he doesn't know it, Travis is my one exception to the "you don't get to move back" rule. This is due to his disabilities. While I want to push him forward, I also have to be realistic. He could lose his vision completely at any time and need to move back during a rehab phase. He could suffer another stroke from the PV and also need rehab. Any number of things. So his moving back home would be decided based on the situation. Plus easy child is organizing her life to also be his safety net. hugs [/QUOTE]
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