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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 48967" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>No, nothing is wrong with you. We all find our personal breaking point. For me it was when my son told his father he hoped he had another stroke. That was it for me. I managed to take the abuse he heaped upon me and all the stress and drama that seemed to go on in our lives, but when I saw that it actually caused his father to become physically ill enough to have a stroke and then this BOY didnt care enough to behave the dang week after it happened...well I had enough!</p><p></p><p>I think my heart hardened to him that week. I lost all compassion for him and started to be able to say to myself that I didnt give a rats <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> what he did with his life. He wasnt going to take the rest of us down with him. </p><p></p><p>Do you take medications for your depression? If not, you may want to see about getting on them for the time being. You may also want to consider seeing a good therapist for the a short while. One who has experience in parenting difficult child's can be worth their weight in gold. My therapist has her own adult difficult child and she had to kick him out and press charges against him and she has been such an ally to me. She truly gets my situation. I dont have to explain difficult child behavior to a perfect parent or even to a professional who understands it in theory but not personally...it makes such a difference. I wish all professionals had their own difficult child's...lol. </p><p></p><p>You will start to come to terms with the fact that you cannot change your dtr. She will figure out how to land on her feet somehow. They always do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 48967, member: 1514"] No, nothing is wrong with you. We all find our personal breaking point. For me it was when my son told his father he hoped he had another stroke. That was it for me. I managed to take the abuse he heaped upon me and all the stress and drama that seemed to go on in our lives, but when I saw that it actually caused his father to become physically ill enough to have a stroke and then this BOY didnt care enough to behave the dang week after it happened...well I had enough! I think my heart hardened to him that week. I lost all compassion for him and started to be able to say to myself that I didnt give a rats :censored2: what he did with his life. He wasnt going to take the rest of us down with him. Do you take medications for your depression? If not, you may want to see about getting on them for the time being. You may also want to consider seeing a good therapist for the a short while. One who has experience in parenting difficult child's can be worth their weight in gold. My therapist has her own adult difficult child and she had to kick him out and press charges against him and she has been such an ally to me. She truly gets my situation. I dont have to explain difficult child behavior to a perfect parent or even to a professional who understands it in theory but not personally...it makes such a difference. I wish all professionals had their own difficult child's...lol. You will start to come to terms with the fact that you cannot change your dtr. She will figure out how to land on her feet somehow. They always do. [/QUOTE]
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