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Devestated - Boys almost get arrested
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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 12061" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Hi,</p><p>The problem with events like these is that they throw us off track, and we then start to look for quick fixes. Education is a long process and there are going to be bumps in the road. The center is privately owned , also in another town , so they can decide what they like even if they are being unfair to you. At least they have not being kicked out of school, just a private club. I think if you see this event as a window of opportunity to have a dialog with the kids , not in an accusing way , not showing the consequences of their actions in terms of what's in it for me, what will be done to me or what will I get , but rather the consequences of our actions on others , taking perpectives , how to problem solve and meet needs in appropriate ways and make a commitment to try and be successful in what we do and in our relationships you can go forward. Try involve them in some prosocial activity , or something that will make them feel good about themselves. Kids in the main , take off in a positive direction , having experienced some success , feel understood and respected. If you feel more positive about yourself , you will be able to uplift your kids. ' Failure is not in the falling , but not getting up. You need happiness , music and celebration now , to help you take advantage of this window of opportunity , so start by treating yourself.</p><p></p><p>Allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 12061, member: 10"] Hi, The problem with events like these is that they throw us off track, and we then start to look for quick fixes. Education is a long process and there are going to be bumps in the road. The center is privately owned , also in another town , so they can decide what they like even if they are being unfair to you. At least they have not being kicked out of school, just a private club. I think if you see this event as a window of opportunity to have a dialog with the kids , not in an accusing way , not showing the consequences of their actions in terms of what's in it for me, what will be done to me or what will I get , but rather the consequences of our actions on others , taking perpectives , how to problem solve and meet needs in appropriate ways and make a commitment to try and be successful in what we do and in our relationships you can go forward. Try involve them in some prosocial activity , or something that will make them feel good about themselves. Kids in the main , take off in a positive direction , having experienced some success , feel understood and respected. If you feel more positive about yourself , you will be able to uplift your kids. ' Failure is not in the falling , but not getting up. You need happiness , music and celebration now , to help you take advantage of this window of opportunity , so start by treating yourself. Allan [/QUOTE]
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