toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Hi all,
Well husband was out in CA on a business trip and so got to spend an hour with difficult child at the treatment center. It was a good visit and it sounds like they really talked. My husband is not a big talker so that in itself is amazing. Anyway difficult child looks really good according to husband and he sent me a picture. difficult child says he is following all the rules and will continue to do so (although there is some indication that this is not absolutely true). He also told husband that he has exaggerated his drug use to avoid conseqences (like what?) and to fit in. I can believe about the fitting in part. However of course that is not why we think he has a substance abuse problem.... it has created a lot of consequences for him like getting kicked out of sober house after sober house. Anyway difficult child still thinks he can drink and smoke pot moderately which of course is very worrisome, although I think fairly typical. He did tell husband that he wouldnt do it though while he was in a sober house (which would be progress).
One of the good things is difficult child said he wants to see me... and I am hoping to make a visit out there soon. I want to go visit my Dad (who is 95) who is in Northern CA so a visit to them both makes sense. I realized I would really like to see difficult child when he is doing well before he screws up again.... hopefully one day I wont be waiting for that other shoe to drop.
Anyway I had a really good sleep last night.... I Tis so nice to know he is safe and at least getting help.
TL
Well husband was out in CA on a business trip and so got to spend an hour with difficult child at the treatment center. It was a good visit and it sounds like they really talked. My husband is not a big talker so that in itself is amazing. Anyway difficult child looks really good according to husband and he sent me a picture. difficult child says he is following all the rules and will continue to do so (although there is some indication that this is not absolutely true). He also told husband that he has exaggerated his drug use to avoid conseqences (like what?) and to fit in. I can believe about the fitting in part. However of course that is not why we think he has a substance abuse problem.... it has created a lot of consequences for him like getting kicked out of sober house after sober house. Anyway difficult child still thinks he can drink and smoke pot moderately which of course is very worrisome, although I think fairly typical. He did tell husband that he wouldnt do it though while he was in a sober house (which would be progress).
One of the good things is difficult child said he wants to see me... and I am hoping to make a visit out there soon. I want to go visit my Dad (who is 95) who is in Northern CA so a visit to them both makes sense. I realized I would really like to see difficult child when he is doing well before he screws up again.... hopefully one day I wont be waiting for that other shoe to drop.
Anyway I had a really good sleep last night.... I Tis so nice to know he is safe and at least getting help.
TL