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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 641129" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Cinder,</p><p> </p><p>I am so glad you are here but sorry you have to be.</p><p> </p><p>I have been dealing with my difficult child's out of control life for 20 years. He is almost 34 years old.</p><p>I can tell you from personal experience it doesn't matter how much money you throw at him it will never help him. As for you paying for his cell phone, I would not even be doing that, I would tell him you have x number of days to get your own phone then I will be shutting this one off.</p><p>My difficult child is homeless but yet he managed to get a Kindle, that is how he communicates via FB. So if my homeless and jobless difficult child can get a Kindle I'm sure yours can also. </p><p> </p><p>I know exactly what you are going through as do so many others here. We all have had our hearts and emotions shattered.</p><p> </p><p></p><p>The counselor should have been more specific in their advice. I am a cancer survivor and the way to treat cancer is to deprive it of it's energy source. You need to deprive your difficult child his energy source which is you and your husband. He needs to learn how to take care of himself.</p><p> </p><p>Please do not fall into the guilt trap. <u><strong>You are not responsible for the life choices he has made. </strong></u></p><p> </p><p>Hang in there and know you have support here.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs to you!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 641129, member: 18516"] Hi Cinder, I am so glad you are here but sorry you have to be. I have been dealing with my difficult child's out of control life for 20 years. He is almost 34 years old. I can tell you from personal experience it doesn't matter how much money you throw at him it will never help him. As for you paying for his cell phone, I would not even be doing that, I would tell him you have x number of days to get your own phone then I will be shutting this one off. My difficult child is homeless but yet he managed to get a Kindle, that is how he communicates via FB. So if my homeless and jobless difficult child can get a Kindle I'm sure yours can also. I know exactly what you are going through as do so many others here. We all have had our hearts and emotions shattered. The counselor should have been more specific in their advice. I am a cancer survivor and the way to treat cancer is to deprive it of it's energy source. You need to deprive your difficult child his energy source which is you and your husband. He needs to learn how to take care of himself. Please do not fall into the guilt trap. [U][B]You are not responsible for the life choices he has made. [/B][/U] Hang in there and know you have support here. Hugs to you!! [/QUOTE]
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