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<blockquote data-quote="CinderMCG" data-source="post: 641140" data-attributes="member: 18583"><p>Thanks to all of you for your quick reply and very sound advice. </p><p></p><p>I could say his middle name is narcissism, when unemployed I would suggest why don't you work at "x" place and he would say I am not working there (not good enough). He had a good paying job, but was fired and I pretty much think he thinks that unless he makes x amount of dollars at a particular job he won't take it. He would rather collect from the government as if they owe him for his perception of what they didn't give him (he went to school for a government job but never landed the job). A job paying minimum wage would give him 3 times more that what he is getting so it makes no sense.</p><p></p><p>MidwestMom, yes I do have friends but only speak about his issue to the friends that understand mental illness. One works in the field and the other has a Schizophrenic sister. As you probably have experienced others would just think our children are "weird" and honestly before researching every mental illness known to man to determine what is going on with him I thought people were just that too. I look at the homeless on the street different and I am sure they all have different stories but I am sure most had a family that loved them and tried and it scares me when I see young men on the street fearing one day it may be my own. It's like a part of them they died and you mourn what could have been, then get mad at them because they have created this huge hole in your life that you can't repair until they are well. Every social outing is strained, I never know when I am going to get a call that he is acting up, police have been called come and deal with it etc. </p><p></p><p>Tanya you are right on with the cancer reference and what a great analogy to that reference with respect to taking away the energy source. I am trying by letting him stay in that shelter, in some ways (in my thinking) it's better than at my Mom's because there he will have to follow rules and always has someone to talk to and maybe strangers are better because I can certainly tell you he takes none of our advice. </p><p></p><p>I get so mad at him yet feel so bad for him, what a rotten thing we all have to go through. </p><p></p><p>This site should be referenced on every mental health board to assist parents, what a great support system. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CinderMCG, post: 641140, member: 18583"] Thanks to all of you for your quick reply and very sound advice. I could say his middle name is narcissism, when unemployed I would suggest why don't you work at "x" place and he would say I am not working there (not good enough). He had a good paying job, but was fired and I pretty much think he thinks that unless he makes x amount of dollars at a particular job he won't take it. He would rather collect from the government as if they owe him for his perception of what they didn't give him (he went to school for a government job but never landed the job). A job paying minimum wage would give him 3 times more that what he is getting so it makes no sense. MidwestMom, yes I do have friends but only speak about his issue to the friends that understand mental illness. One works in the field and the other has a Schizophrenic sister. As you probably have experienced others would just think our children are "weird" and honestly before researching every mental illness known to man to determine what is going on with him I thought people were just that too. I look at the homeless on the street different and I am sure they all have different stories but I am sure most had a family that loved them and tried and it scares me when I see young men on the street fearing one day it may be my own. It's like a part of them they died and you mourn what could have been, then get mad at them because they have created this huge hole in your life that you can't repair until they are well. Every social outing is strained, I never know when I am going to get a call that he is acting up, police have been called come and deal with it etc. Tanya you are right on with the cancer reference and what a great analogy to that reference with respect to taking away the energy source. I am trying by letting him stay in that shelter, in some ways (in my thinking) it's better than at my Mom's because there he will have to follow rules and always has someone to talk to and maybe strangers are better because I can certainly tell you he takes none of our advice. I get so mad at him yet feel so bad for him, what a rotten thing we all have to go through. This site should be referenced on every mental health board to assist parents, what a great support system. :) [/QUOTE]
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