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Diagnosis = Heartbreak
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 641144" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>He IS dysfunctional.And, yes, I love my son lots and lots, but I LIKE my other children better. They are nicer, sweeter, normal adults. I can't help liking them more, even if I don't love them more.</p><p></p><p>But there is no need for anyone in your family to know about him. If your mom is understanding and won't talk about him to the rest of the family, tell her, but nobody else. If she gossips, I'd think about even talking to her about it. I find a therapist better.</p><p></p><p>Our grown kids are very hard to understand because, yes, they are MEAN. They don't care about other people. They steal, they use drugs, they call us horrible names, they assault us...how is anyone supposed to understand that??? I don't expect them to so I keep it quiet. I feel best just telling my therapist.</p><p></p><p>Can't tell you how much his siblings want nothing to do with him. It's too bad, but it is his fault. I can't blame them and I do not talk about him to them either. They don't want to hear it. The difficult child himself actually causes this, not us. Why should we suffer by talking to people who are going to think things that are not true, such as we were bad mothers or our grown kids would be different? That, by the way, is not true.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 641144, member: 1550"] He IS dysfunctional.And, yes, I love my son lots and lots, but I LIKE my other children better. They are nicer, sweeter, normal adults. I can't help liking them more, even if I don't love them more. But there is no need for anyone in your family to know about him. If your mom is understanding and won't talk about him to the rest of the family, tell her, but nobody else. If she gossips, I'd think about even talking to her about it. I find a therapist better. Our grown kids are very hard to understand because, yes, they are MEAN. They don't care about other people. They steal, they use drugs, they call us horrible names, they assault us...how is anyone supposed to understand that??? I don't expect them to so I keep it quiet. I feel best just telling my therapist. Can't tell you how much his siblings want nothing to do with him. It's too bad, but it is his fault. I can't blame them and I do not talk about him to them either. They don't want to hear it. The difficult child himself actually causes this, not us. Why should we suffer by talking to people who are going to think things that are not true, such as we were bad mothers or our grown kids would be different? That, by the way, is not true. [/QUOTE]
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