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Did I give birth to an unicorn? Or three easy steps to become a guru
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 664536" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>First of, he is diagnosed with Borderline (BPD) and that explains some of h8is behaviour patterns. His way of relating other people is, well, disturbed, in lack of better description.</p><p></p><p>For him other people, people he does not have emotional connection with, are indifferent. And that is what worries me on this. This may well be an art project for him. Or genuine curiosity over human behaviour. An experiment on how far and how quick he can go. And when he will rip it all down, he will not have any concern over what it does for people he has experimented with. He may even shame them in public just for laughs and see nothing wrong in that. </p><p></p><p>I also do not know what is a role of a lady friend. If he is doing this to please her or if he is playing her. Or something between?</p><p></p><p>He has never told me anything about this awakening, and to my knowledge he is still as much an atheist as he ever was.There was this meeting he was a speaker before, but I noticed it from the local paper. He never mentioned it to me. And while he has introduced his lady friend to me, neither told me what she did for living. And I assume that my dad may have well warned her beforehand to tell me anything because I'm a bore and a sceptic. Would be very much like him. He actually do not want to disappoint me so he doesn't like to tell me things he knows or imagines I do not approve.</p><p></p><p>You see, our parent-child relationship has been reversed at least 30 years. The dynamic used to be that he was this mischievous boy and my job was to tut and shake my head and scold him and then forgive him. After our long period of no contact I have tried to change the dynamic somewhat from my end, but to me it seems he is not ready to give up his end of it. Still for example now I have not said anything to him about the whole endeavour. And as long as he doesn't tell me about it, I can pretend I do not know.</p><p></p><p>As for mixing my kids into it, it seems that having a grandchild who would be this enlighten soul would give him some credence. Show some sort of inherited sensitivity or empath powers that mere mortals do not possess. And if his grandchild is enlighten one, it speaks also of him. And apparently even he couldn't come up with a reality where I would be enlighten <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /> And he does not have other children than me. </p><p></p><p>Only very few people I know know he is my dad, I doubt my sons have ever mentioned him to many of their friends. So outside family very few would connect my kids to my dad, so I do not see much harm coming to them. well, if my dad doesn't babble about it, but I do doubt it, because he knows how angry that would make me. Only if I turn totally black in his eyes, he would dare that, because he knows I would not forgive that one though I have forgiven him much. </p><p></p><p>And even if he would babble, well, having 'a crazy grandfather' would not hurt my kids, especially when said grandfather is also recognised artist and behavioural standards for artists are much looser in our society than for most people. So instead of 'crazy grandfather' he would be 'an eccentric artist grandfather.'</p><p></p><p>But I agree with you, this have every chance to turn very distasteful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 664536, member: 14557"] First of, he is diagnosed with Borderline (BPD) and that explains some of h8is behaviour patterns. His way of relating other people is, well, disturbed, in lack of better description. For him other people, people he does not have emotional connection with, are indifferent. And that is what worries me on this. This may well be an art project for him. Or genuine curiosity over human behaviour. An experiment on how far and how quick he can go. And when he will rip it all down, he will not have any concern over what it does for people he has experimented with. He may even shame them in public just for laughs and see nothing wrong in that. I also do not know what is a role of a lady friend. If he is doing this to please her or if he is playing her. Or something between? He has never told me anything about this awakening, and to my knowledge he is still as much an atheist as he ever was.There was this meeting he was a speaker before, but I noticed it from the local paper. He never mentioned it to me. And while he has introduced his lady friend to me, neither told me what she did for living. And I assume that my dad may have well warned her beforehand to tell me anything because I'm a bore and a sceptic. Would be very much like him. He actually do not want to disappoint me so he doesn't like to tell me things he knows or imagines I do not approve. You see, our parent-child relationship has been reversed at least 30 years. The dynamic used to be that he was this mischievous boy and my job was to tut and shake my head and scold him and then forgive him. After our long period of no contact I have tried to change the dynamic somewhat from my end, but to me it seems he is not ready to give up his end of it. Still for example now I have not said anything to him about the whole endeavour. And as long as he doesn't tell me about it, I can pretend I do not know. As for mixing my kids into it, it seems that having a grandchild who would be this enlighten soul would give him some credence. Show some sort of inherited sensitivity or empath powers that mere mortals do not possess. And if his grandchild is enlighten one, it speaks also of him. And apparently even he couldn't come up with a reality where I would be enlighten :D And he does not have other children than me. Only very few people I know know he is my dad, I doubt my sons have ever mentioned him to many of their friends. So outside family very few would connect my kids to my dad, so I do not see much harm coming to them. well, if my dad doesn't babble about it, but I do doubt it, because he knows how angry that would make me. Only if I turn totally black in his eyes, he would dare that, because he knows I would not forgive that one though I have forgiven him much. And even if he would babble, well, having 'a crazy grandfather' would not hurt my kids, especially when said grandfather is also recognised artist and behavioural standards for artists are much looser in our society than for most people. So instead of 'crazy grandfather' he would be 'an eccentric artist grandfather.' But I agree with you, this have every chance to turn very distasteful. [/QUOTE]
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