My only daughter is 17. She is a easy child, great child whose only shortcoming is that despite an IQ in the gifted range she doesn't give a hoot about academics and will likely have to go to community college (her SATs are in the 1900's but her GPA is below 3.0, she has been deferred at the state schools). Earlier this week, she asked if she could attend a sleepover at her friend's house last night. I have known the parents for 10 years so I said yes. Last night, we were at a party and my daughter told me that her friend's parents wouldn't be home because they were out of town. I didn't cause a scene and I let her leave the party to go to her friend's house. I told H and he decided that she could NOT sleep over and I agreed. The friend had invited some boys to stay over, although all of the straight boys had parents who refused so only several boys who self-identify as gay stayed over. We picked our daughter up about midnight and she was ******. She was yelling about how she is trustworthy and did we really think she and her friends were going to use the host parents' marjuana (yup, it's an open secret - these parents still smoke dope, their child doesn't) or drink their liquor. She is a very good kid and I feel badly about pulling her out but I was really concerned about that many teenagers being unsupervised. My other friend, whose daughter was home sick and didn't go to either party, texted the mom but never heard back - they are very good friends, spent Xmas together. The host mom didn't mention she'd be away so either she didn't know her child was planning a party or she did and showed no respect to the rest of us parents - we have all socialized and been friends for a dozen years so I would have expected a call saying we're out of town just a heads up. I let my daughter go back this morning and they have since moved on to a home where a parent is present. When I called her, she said "I'm smoking dope and having hot lesbian sex, please leave me alone!" Did we over-react? Should I have let her stay overnight? Thanks for your input.