First, I must say, Beth, the saddle shooting comment...OMG too funny. Got home tonight and husband had planned to cut up deer from hunting this weekend. We did 2 last night, so I assumed we were doing the same. Nope, he wants to go to his mom and dad's shop. I ask why, there's no heat and its cold and it worked fine here. Well, he jibber-jabbered around and finally said "cause nephew is cutting his up out there and I need to help him. I know you're angry, but this is easier for me." The feces hit the rotating blades. And I refused. husband is angry with me. He says his mom called and we ARE going to Thanksgiving out there this weekend, and we all WILL have a discussion about this because HE'S tired of it. I told him last night that easy child 1 will not go, and I most likely won't go. Apparently he didn't think I was serious. I know I will never change Two Brooms. I also know that I will not stand for her 20 year old grandson to do the same things. What I don't know is how to continue existing with them in my lives - every day she calls husband while I sit there and I listen to her carry on about how he is, how easy child 2 is, blah blah blah, while nada about the rest of us; she uses MY stuff and MY land without even a consideration to me; she yelled at ME, whom she never talks to, because she didn't know difficult child 1 got married - she drove THRU MY YARD past him without stopping several times while he was home on leave, and talked to husband daily! How is this MY problem? Thanksgiving dinner is not the time to have this conversation. I don't really think there is a point to even having it, but now I'm debating it. Wish I knew what to do. And why do I always feel guilty about standing up for myself and my kids???