My son left home two weeks after turning 14yo so I still see him as having a 13yo's level of maturity at that time. He's coming home at 15yo. I hate to say it, but at least incarceration has kept him from being having opportunity to have sex, start drugs/drinking, and he hasn't joined a gang. His grades are good and he seems more responsible. But for those who have raised boys thru their teen years or have seen them growing up first-hand, how much maturity normally takes place between 13 and 15yo? At what age is their enough maturity that we should see them really thinking about their future after high school and realizing that the choices they make today have impact on the next few years, not just the next few weeks or months? I'm thinking difficult child's tendency to complain about me being certain ways but refusing to listen or discuss it in any depth other then "oh mom, your just that way" is probably typical teen??? I'm really afraid that he'll come home, make those quick easy friends that are into bad stuff and delve into drugs or something. Fortunately, he knows he'll have drug tests at any given time for at least 6 mos. But there are ways to get high that won't show up on drug tests and I think he's heard about a couple already. I'm also worried that his "auro" will reflect a boy who's been incarcerated or in trouble and he'll end up with kids who haven't been in trouble not wanting to be friends with him so here he will go into another new school with a bad reputation and label on him.