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difficult child 1 was having a particularly hard day the other day and banished himself to his room "for the rest of the day" because he couldn't seem to stop misbehaving so he went this extreme (it was only 11am). I gave him some time alone and then went up to ask him what WE could come up with to help him. He came up with a plan that just might work but with his literal thinking, I need to plug "loopholes" before I'd ever consider implementing it. I gotta give him a lot of credit!!!
1) Make a card that says STOP and laminate it for me to hold up when he is arguing with me or being "mouthy". If he doesn't stop, he will get a time out that will increase the more he continues after the card is up.
2) Earn "points" or credits for all the good things he does and situations he handles appropriately. These credits can be used for various rewards depending on how many he gets/saves.
3) Keep a notebook and write down any of the "bad" things he does for us to discuss later (a day or 2). We could discuss better ways to handle the situations that caused the "bad" behaviors.
Okay. Sounds good, right? Well, difficult child 1 is not one to generalize from one situation to the next and "in the heat of the moment" forgets the "better ways" we talked about, usually putting us back at square 1. He also doesn't (usually) like to talk about the "bad" stuff when "it's done and over so drop it".
Does anyone have any brilliant ideas to plug the "loopholes", especially those of you with kids that struggle with the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) thought process struggles? No, that doesn't mean I don't want input from those of you that don't have kids with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) because you guys usually have great ideas too.
1) Make a card that says STOP and laminate it for me to hold up when he is arguing with me or being "mouthy". If he doesn't stop, he will get a time out that will increase the more he continues after the card is up.
2) Earn "points" or credits for all the good things he does and situations he handles appropriately. These credits can be used for various rewards depending on how many he gets/saves.
3) Keep a notebook and write down any of the "bad" things he does for us to discuss later (a day or 2). We could discuss better ways to handle the situations that caused the "bad" behaviors.
Okay. Sounds good, right? Well, difficult child 1 is not one to generalize from one situation to the next and "in the heat of the moment" forgets the "better ways" we talked about, usually putting us back at square 1. He also doesn't (usually) like to talk about the "bad" stuff when "it's done and over so drop it".
Does anyone have any brilliant ideas to plug the "loopholes", especially those of you with kids that struggle with the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) thought process struggles? No, that doesn't mean I don't want input from those of you that don't have kids with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) because you guys usually have great ideas too.
