Ugh! So I just received an email from my daughter's case carrier/teacher. She told me that difficult child told her she hasn't showered in four days. I have no idea why difficult child would volunteer this information, but she did. Her teacher asked me to please make sure she showers tonight, because it's important for her hygiene. I don't know what to do with this girl anymore. I thought that once she entered high school she would start caring about her looks, but she just doesn't. Her hair is always super oily. She has acne because she doesn't wash her face. I have asked her multiple times to take daily showers but most of the time she flat out refuses. Last night was another battle. I told her she needed to take a bath and wash her hair before watching any TV. She chose to go to bed early rather than shower. She promised she would get up early and take a bath this morning. I argued with her, telling her that she is VERY hard to wake up in the morning and that I didn't trust her to get up in time. She promised she would do it, but of course she never did. I had to practically drag her out of bed to get her up and ready to go to school. I just texted her this morning, telling her that her teacher was complaining, and that she absolutely had to take a shower tonight and wash her hair. I know it's going to be yet another battle tonight. She is going to her dad's tomorrow night, so she absolutely HAS to wash her hair tonight. He is gonna absolutely freak on me if she doesn't. He blames me for her lack of hygiene. I have no idea what else to do. Everybody is pointing fingers and blaming me. Her teacher, therapist, her dad and I have all had numerous talks with her about her hygiene issues. It doesn't do any good. I'm sick of getting the blame. She's fourteen and should be caring about how she looks/smells. She doesn't. How do I motivate her to take better care of herself? I'm seriously at a loss here.