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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 64164" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>This is awful and what's worse, you predicted it. The only consolation (not that there can really be much consolation, and none for difficult child) is that the nasty things Super-dad said about you are now exposed as lies, along with everything else Super-Dad said and promised.</p><p></p><p>It's nasty, it's awful, but with a Super-dad like this, difficult child needs the experience to help him recognise a louse when he sees one, and to not be sucked in again so easily.</p><p></p><p>Can you do anything to use this to help protect difficult child in future? There really should be some rule that says if Super-dad wants to be in difficult child's life, he has certain responsibilities to meet first. Repeatedly making arrangements and then dropping them without notice or valid reason given afterwards, shouldn't be allowed to happen more than once or twice before visitation arrangements can be legally modified to protect the child.</p><p></p><p>Can you explain to difficult child that this isn't how dads are supposed to be, but it's not difficult child's fault, it's not your fault, it's just that some people are less able to organise themselves or to keep promises. His dad may love him, but he simply isn't able to be a responsible father right now. It only takes DNA to make a father but it takes a lot more than DNA or even love to make a Dad. It takes responsibility and stepping up to the plate, being there for the hard times as well as the football in the park.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 64164, member: 1991"] This is awful and what's worse, you predicted it. The only consolation (not that there can really be much consolation, and none for difficult child) is that the nasty things Super-dad said about you are now exposed as lies, along with everything else Super-Dad said and promised. It's nasty, it's awful, but with a Super-dad like this, difficult child needs the experience to help him recognise a louse when he sees one, and to not be sucked in again so easily. Can you do anything to use this to help protect difficult child in future? There really should be some rule that says if Super-dad wants to be in difficult child's life, he has certain responsibilities to meet first. Repeatedly making arrangements and then dropping them without notice or valid reason given afterwards, shouldn't be allowed to happen more than once or twice before visitation arrangements can be legally modified to protect the child. Can you explain to difficult child that this isn't how dads are supposed to be, but it's not difficult child's fault, it's not your fault, it's just that some people are less able to organise themselves or to keep promises. His dad may love him, but he simply isn't able to be a responsible father right now. It only takes DNA to make a father but it takes a lot more than DNA or even love to make a Dad. It takes responsibility and stepping up to the plate, being there for the hard times as well as the football in the park. Marg [/QUOTE]
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