I don't know what to do about difficult child 1's lack of hygeine. She refuses to put on deoderant and she will not wash her hair. Her hair gets oily really quick and right now it looks terrible. She is good at taking baths every night but will not wash her hair. Sometimes, if I can catch her in time, I will go and wash her hair for her. I shouldn't have to do this but what else am I supposed to do when she downright refuses? The last couple of nights she has taken quick baths and I couldn't get to her in time. Last night, when she got out, I told her to go right back in the bath and wash her hair. She refused. Said she was too tired. Her hair looks absolutely awful this morning. She also gets BO pretty bad and by the end of the day she stinks. She has couldn't care less what people think of her. There are a couple of the boys that she hangs out with that have crushes on her. I honestly don't know what they see in her. Half the time she looks like one hot mess. I wish she cared more about her appearance but she just won't. When she goes to high school next year I'm afraid she will get made fun of. I'm also worried that one of these days CPS will be called for neglect. At her age I don't know if they would, but you never know. I have already had the school psychologist call me and talk to me about this issue. She told me I need to make sure she takes better care of herself. I explained the situation and she finally saw my side. She says she had a sister who was the same way, just didn't care about how she looked. There was nothing her parents could do about it either. Her main teacher called my mom to discuss the same thing. I really hate it when the school calls her instead of me. If they have an issue, they need to notify me directly and not call grandma. Anyway, my mom tried to explain the situation too but I don't know if he actually got it. Thank goodness I don't have this problem with my son. He takes his baths on his own and washes his hair. My ex blames my daughter's hygiene on me. Go figure, he blames everything on me. Oh and by the way, she never pulls this **** at her dad's. She washes her own hair when she is there. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I don't know how to change her. Why does she always obey him and not me? I'm downright frustrated right now.