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Difficult Child....Baby Drama.....I'm not built for this!
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 671920" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Penny,</p><p>I am sorry I missed your last post, I have been busy in FOO examining my past.....You wrote of maybe thinking CPS involvement was wrong. I do not think so. Here, CPS avails themselves of Catholic Charities and their counseling services. It may be so where you live, it may be an open door for your son, g-babes Mom and your grand.</p><p>Let's hope for the best.</p><p></p><p> Yes, you have just begun the train ride. Hold on to hope Penny.</p><p></p><p> That is an amazing quality in a young man. I hope it helps him take the steps he needs to take.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This is a good thing, your strength in trying to make the impossible happen. I am glad the payments will soon be over. It is hard when finances are strained.</p><p> The truth is hard for our d cs to hear. They are wired differently. Nothing is their doing it seems.</p><p></p><p> Good message Penny, and true. Though he rejected hearing it, it is there and it may impact him more than you think. Maya Angelou said words have power, and I do believe this. Have you told him how impressed you are with his fathering? Maybe he needs to hear this too.</p><p></p><p> Good resolve Penny, stick to this. In knowing it, your son has to stand up and do for himself and his child.</p><p></p><p> This is a different generation. When our d cs suffer addiction, or have mental health issues, their outlook on life can be very, very different than ours. Entitlement rings true in most of the stories posted here.</p><p></p><p> They have to find their own way. Most times, it is the hard way. Watching this as a parent is frustrating, but they do have to find their way.</p><p>Is your son still living with his sister? You may want to get ready for the time that may come, where sister will be tired of this.</p><p>She is not his keeper, either.</p><p>There are many stories here are of d cs bouncing back and forth between family homes, wreaking havoc where they land.</p><p></p><p> I thought this way too, Penny.</p><p>This was my daughter and her children. But in the end of it, their babies are their responsibility. The sooner they grasp this, the better, for you, them and that precious baby.</p><p>I have gone through many years of trying to help, for the sake of the babies. But it did not help. Their parents continued on their ways through the birth of three children. Each time, thinking it was everyone else's responsibility to step in. They did not stop using. With CPS involvement, they had to, because there were mandatory drug tests and counseling. The problem was, this was not their choice. They have to choose to want a different path, a better life.</p><p></p><p>I know you are very worried for your grandchild. I have been there, and still think of them.</p><p></p><p>I have not seen them for four months. </p><p>My grands are withheld from me, by their parents, it is painful, but I pray for them everyday.</p><p></p><p>I have stepped back after some very trying and tumultuous times. I have given them to God, in the realization that there is nothing I can do for them. CPS recognizes parental rights, and takes steps to help with parenting classes and counseling before even considering removal. It might do you well to learn of this, to understand your options and your rights as a grandmother.</p><p></p><p>Penny, I feel for you, it is very hard. I hope you are able to take time for yourself, to regroup and rebuild.</p><p></p><p>Prayers for you and yours.</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p></p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 671920, member: 19522"] Hi Penny, I am sorry I missed your last post, I have been busy in FOO examining my past.....You wrote of maybe thinking CPS involvement was wrong. I do not think so. Here, CPS avails themselves of Catholic Charities and their counseling services. It may be so where you live, it may be an open door for your son, g-babes Mom and your grand. Let's hope for the best. Yes, you have just begun the train ride. Hold on to hope Penny. That is an amazing quality in a young man. I hope it helps him take the steps he needs to take. This is a good thing, your strength in trying to make the impossible happen. I am glad the payments will soon be over. It is hard when finances are strained. The truth is hard for our d cs to hear. They are wired differently. Nothing is their doing it seems. Good message Penny, and true. Though he rejected hearing it, it is there and it may impact him more than you think. Maya Angelou said words have power, and I do believe this. Have you told him how impressed you are with his fathering? Maybe he needs to hear this too. Good resolve Penny, stick to this. In knowing it, your son has to stand up and do for himself and his child. This is a different generation. When our d cs suffer addiction, or have mental health issues, their outlook on life can be very, very different than ours. Entitlement rings true in most of the stories posted here. They have to find their own way. Most times, it is the hard way. Watching this as a parent is frustrating, but they do have to find their way. Is your son still living with his sister? You may want to get ready for the time that may come, where sister will be tired of this. She is not his keeper, either. There are many stories here are of d cs bouncing back and forth between family homes, wreaking havoc where they land. I thought this way too, Penny. This was my daughter and her children. But in the end of it, their babies are their responsibility. The sooner they grasp this, the better, for you, them and that precious baby. I have gone through many years of trying to help, for the sake of the babies. But it did not help. Their parents continued on their ways through the birth of three children. Each time, thinking it was everyone else's responsibility to step in. They did not stop using. With CPS involvement, they had to, because there were mandatory drug tests and counseling. The problem was, this was not their choice. They have to choose to want a different path, a better life. I know you are very worried for your grandchild. I have been there, and still think of them. I have not seen them for four months. My grands are withheld from me, by their parents, it is painful, but I pray for them everyday. I have stepped back after some very trying and tumultuous times. I have given them to God, in the realization that there is nothing I can do for them. CPS recognizes parental rights, and takes steps to help with parenting classes and counseling before even considering removal. It might do you well to learn of this, to understand your options and your rights as a grandmother. Penny, I feel for you, it is very hard. I hope you are able to take time for yourself, to regroup and rebuild. Prayers for you and yours. (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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