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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 634377" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>in my opinion, having suffered from anxiety disorders and panic disorder (and at one time even a form of agoraphobia) plus having had a daughter who cut, your easy child is not a bad kid, but one who is in need of mental health treatment. I would say she needs more than a NP. I mean, I love NPs and use one as my Primary, but she is experiencing mental health problems. I have no idea why a psychiatrist would pass her to an NP, but I'd get a different psychiatrist's opinion. Are you in the US? If not, it may be different for you and you may not be able to do that.</p><p></p><p>Most normal teens do not cut or have issues with sexuality. She may be going through a phase or it may be her sexuality, but if she were my sweet daughter who was struggling on many levels, I'd consult another psychiatrist It sounds as if she has body image problems and this also needs addressing. My daughter had the cutting issue and she said, "I did it to feel something. I felt so dead inside." I think it was depression and also because of some things that had happened to her early on. She was also adopted. Cutting becomes a habit and can be hard to quit, per my dearest friend who cut for years (she sadly died of cancer a long time ago, but went to therapy to stop. She said it was hard).</p><p></p><p>The issues that your easy child has are not "bad kid" issues, but rather anxiety issues and mental health concerns. Homeschooling will not make any of her issues go away nor will it stop peer pressure. She will see teens anyway. My daughter was homeschooled for two years in high school due to her drug use and it didn't stop her from seeing other teens or from getting and using drugs. Kids are sneaky. We do have to sleep..</p><p></p><p>My experience with my four kids is that they have to learn how to function in society, therefore it is best to get them the help and they can learn, with that professional help, to cope in society. At eighteen it's either college or a full time job and, in either place, they can not just stay at home and not interact with others. And they won't do that anyway.</p><p></p><p>I had horrible anxiety and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) thoughts and depression as a kid and teen (I don't remember an age when I did not have all three issues) and therapy was amazing for me over a period of years. So was the correct medication, which took time to figure out. I prefer cognitive behavioral therapy and, even better, dialectal behavioral therapy...if you see a psychiatrist, he will likely refer your daughter to a cohort who does therapy. A NP??? Really????? Why? No therapy?</p><p></p><p>I strongly suggest you get her intervention as soon as you can. I had to start my mental health walk at 23 because my parents plain would not get me help and, frankly, back then there wasn't very good help. Now things have improved A LOT and it would be great if you daughter can get professional help at fourteen...that is nine years earlier than me!!!!</p><p></p><p>Hugs and good luck to you!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 634377, member: 1550"] in my opinion, having suffered from anxiety disorders and panic disorder (and at one time even a form of agoraphobia) plus having had a daughter who cut, your easy child is not a bad kid, but one who is in need of mental health treatment. I would say she needs more than a NP. I mean, I love NPs and use one as my Primary, but she is experiencing mental health problems. I have no idea why a psychiatrist would pass her to an NP, but I'd get a different psychiatrist's opinion. Are you in the US? If not, it may be different for you and you may not be able to do that. Most normal teens do not cut or have issues with sexuality. She may be going through a phase or it may be her sexuality, but if she were my sweet daughter who was struggling on many levels, I'd consult another psychiatrist It sounds as if she has body image problems and this also needs addressing. My daughter had the cutting issue and she said, "I did it to feel something. I felt so dead inside." I think it was depression and also because of some things that had happened to her early on. She was also adopted. Cutting becomes a habit and can be hard to quit, per my dearest friend who cut for years (she sadly died of cancer a long time ago, but went to therapy to stop. She said it was hard). The issues that your easy child has are not "bad kid" issues, but rather anxiety issues and mental health concerns. Homeschooling will not make any of her issues go away nor will it stop peer pressure. She will see teens anyway. My daughter was homeschooled for two years in high school due to her drug use and it didn't stop her from seeing other teens or from getting and using drugs. Kids are sneaky. We do have to sleep.. My experience with my four kids is that they have to learn how to function in society, therefore it is best to get them the help and they can learn, with that professional help, to cope in society. At eighteen it's either college or a full time job and, in either place, they can not just stay at home and not interact with others. And they won't do that anyway. I had horrible anxiety and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) thoughts and depression as a kid and teen (I don't remember an age when I did not have all three issues) and therapy was amazing for me over a period of years. So was the correct medication, which took time to figure out. I prefer cognitive behavioral therapy and, even better, dialectal behavioral therapy...if you see a psychiatrist, he will likely refer your daughter to a cohort who does therapy. A NP??? Really????? Why? No therapy? I strongly suggest you get her intervention as soon as you can. I had to start my mental health walk at 23 because my parents plain would not get me help and, frankly, back then there wasn't very good help. Now things have improved A LOT and it would be great if you daughter can get professional help at fourteen...that is nine years earlier than me!!!! Hugs and good luck to you!!!! [/QUOTE]
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