Well, the blush of excitement has faded. Apparently, one of the roommates in my daughter's new dwelling seems less then happy to have her there and is reporting to the other roommate and owner of the house, blown out half truths to make my daughter look bad. It seems life is never dull for a difficult child. So, the owner/roommate initially got angry, just doesn't want to deal with this and told my difficult child that she has 30 days to get out! He has been out of town for a week caring for his grandmother and while he was away, the other roommate seems to have taken advantage of his absence in creating problems. I talked to my difficult child extensively figuring somehow she has at least inadvertently created this herself, but this time, it really does sound like she may be innocent. I told her to talk to the owner roommate and present her side of the story today when he returns, so it's a big day for her. She was understandably upset and I felt so sorry for her after her initial excitement in finding this place herself. This has been such a good opportunity, but if the other roommate is going to continually cause problems, it may not be the place for her. Or it could be a series of misunderstandings that may be able to be cleared up with direct communication, I don't know. She is going to talk to the owner today, so if you guys can muster up some good board juju for the right outcome, whatever that is, to put her in the appropriate place where she is safe and happy, I would so appreciate it.
I am feeling pretty disappointed myself. It hurts my heart to see her so sad after she has been trying so hard to make everything work. My reaction to all of this was different, and much better for me. I did not get into that fixit place and feel angry, I listened to her and offered my opinion and advice. She listened to me too. I pointed out that she has her belongings out of storage now and that is a very important step and that whatever happens, I know she can deal with it. Perhaps this is a life lesson for her in working something out. She admitted to me that she can be "abrasive" and others don't always like her and that she had to try to overcome that. I had never heard her say ANYTHING even remotely like that before, so I took that self disclosure and honest self appraisal as a positive thing too.
I am a little worried right now. And, I feel sad that it just never seems to get easier for her. Life has been pretty tough for her for a long time and I was hoping that tide had changed. Sigh....... Thanks everyone, I appreciate any good wishes you can send her way today.........
I am feeling pretty disappointed myself. It hurts my heart to see her so sad after she has been trying so hard to make everything work. My reaction to all of this was different, and much better for me. I did not get into that fixit place and feel angry, I listened to her and offered my opinion and advice. She listened to me too. I pointed out that she has her belongings out of storage now and that is a very important step and that whatever happens, I know she can deal with it. Perhaps this is a life lesson for her in working something out. She admitted to me that she can be "abrasive" and others don't always like her and that she had to try to overcome that. I had never heard her say ANYTHING even remotely like that before, so I took that self disclosure and honest self appraisal as a positive thing too.
I am a little worried right now. And, I feel sad that it just never seems to get easier for her. Life has been pretty tough for her for a long time and I was hoping that tide had changed. Sigh....... Thanks everyone, I appreciate any good wishes you can send her way today.........
