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<blockquote data-quote="Stress Bunny" data-source="post: 629352" data-attributes="member: 4855"><p>I'm so glad everyone agrees that it would be a bad idea to let Bubby hang out with JT unsupervised. Sometimes JT is so convincing in his indignity, that I actually question myself. I know intellectually it would be a bad idea, and yet, my heart wishes things were different. JT knows my mommy heart hurts, and he exploits that.</p><p></p><p>I have mixed feelings about seeing JT at all. I don't know how to interact with him when he's living such a horrid lifestyle. Plus, his attitude can be taken in only small doses. I don't want to pretend that nothing is wrong. My husband has had it with JT and really doesn't want any contact at all unless and until he makes changes in his life. Meanwhile, JT plays the victim role. Poor little JT has parents who don't want to be around him right now. Never mind the drugs and alcohol, cigarettes, porn, guns, knives, foul language, constantly changing sexual partners, jail, harassing phone calls from creditors, disrespect, narcissism and complete selfishness. I guess we're just supposed to accept all of that.</p><p></p><p>MWM, you may be thinking of someone else's difficult child who destroyed his father. But I so appreciate your thoughts about protecting younger children from older difficult children. You are so right about their perception of getting the short end of the stick and failing to acknowledge their role in anything. JT NEVER acknowledges any of this. In his world, he is almost superhuman. I'm not kidding. He thinks of himself as bigger than life and others as inferior. That's why he is always so shocked in disbelief that anyone would not think well of him. It's very strange, and this is part of his mental health problems, I think.</p><p></p><p>Signorina, you have a great point about forbidden contact leading to fantasy perceptions. I don't want that. We may need to arrange some sort of supervised visit to prevent this. As I said above, I struggle with being around JT for any period of time, so it's hard.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Stress Bunny, post: 629352, member: 4855"] I'm so glad everyone agrees that it would be a bad idea to let Bubby hang out with JT unsupervised. Sometimes JT is so convincing in his indignity, that I actually question myself. I know intellectually it would be a bad idea, and yet, my heart wishes things were different. JT knows my mommy heart hurts, and he exploits that. I have mixed feelings about seeing JT at all. I don't know how to interact with him when he's living such a horrid lifestyle. Plus, his attitude can be taken in only small doses. I don't want to pretend that nothing is wrong. My husband has had it with JT and really doesn't want any contact at all unless and until he makes changes in his life. Meanwhile, JT plays the victim role. Poor little JT has parents who don't want to be around him right now. Never mind the drugs and alcohol, cigarettes, porn, guns, knives, foul language, constantly changing sexual partners, jail, harassing phone calls from creditors, disrespect, narcissism and complete selfishness. I guess we're just supposed to accept all of that. MWM, you may be thinking of someone else's difficult child who destroyed his father. But I so appreciate your thoughts about protecting younger children from older difficult children. You are so right about their perception of getting the short end of the stick and failing to acknowledge their role in anything. JT NEVER acknowledges any of this. In his world, he is almost superhuman. I'm not kidding. He thinks of himself as bigger than life and others as inferior. That's why he is always so shocked in disbelief that anyone would not think well of him. It's very strange, and this is part of his mental health problems, I think. Signorina, you have a great point about forbidden contact leading to fantasy perceptions. I don't want that. We may need to arrange some sort of supervised visit to prevent this. As I said above, I struggle with being around JT for any period of time, so it's hard. [/QUOTE]
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