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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 629362"><p>SB - Please know that it won't always be this hard.And I hate what I am about to write - but after a while - you do get used to it. (yes, sounds crazy. I know that you want it to be resolved & for him to get better & the idea of getting "used to it" is appalling.)</p><p></p><p>I am glad that you are going for counseling - because it will give you some coping skills. My counselor was a sharp dose of reality and he was able to remind me that I had standards and morals that I needed to uphold for my own sanity and as an example for my PCs. </p><p></p><p>"</p><p></p><p>I could and may have written those exact words. Except, it is now 4 years since my difficult child graduated from HS with honors and his future was bright and shiny ahead of him. My own preoccupation robbed me - and my pcs - of happiness for two years. It got in the way of my relationships with my pcs and with my husband. And it didn't help my difficult child and it didn't change his situation in anyway. When we weren't in crisis mode - I was darting around like a chicken without a head wondering "what's next, what's next, what's next?" I had almost an obsession with staying one step ahead of ANY possibility. I had lawyers & shelters from practically every county stored in my phone, I had contingency plans for my contingency plans. </p><p></p><p>None of it came to pass in any way that I could have predicted. It was all a colossal waste of brain time.</p><p></p><p>Please don't make my mistake. The pain and the worry will be there - but somehow it will become less acute. Please take care of yourself and don't let difficult child take you down with him. {{{hugs}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 629362"] SB - Please know that it won't always be this hard.And I hate what I am about to write - but after a while - you do get used to it. (yes, sounds crazy. I know that you want it to be resolved & for him to get better & the idea of getting "used to it" is appalling.) I am glad that you are going for counseling - because it will give you some coping skills. My counselor was a sharp dose of reality and he was able to remind me that I had standards and morals that I needed to uphold for my own sanity and as an example for my PCs. " I could and may have written those exact words. Except, it is now 4 years since my difficult child graduated from HS with honors and his future was bright and shiny ahead of him. My own preoccupation robbed me - and my pcs - of happiness for two years. It got in the way of my relationships with my pcs and with my husband. And it didn't help my difficult child and it didn't change his situation in anyway. When we weren't in crisis mode - I was darting around like a chicken without a head wondering "what's next, what's next, what's next?" I had almost an obsession with staying one step ahead of ANY possibility. I had lawyers & shelters from practically every county stored in my phone, I had contingency plans for my contingency plans. None of it came to pass in any way that I could have predicted. It was all a colossal waste of brain time. Please don't make my mistake. The pain and the worry will be there - but somehow it will become less acute. Please take care of yourself and don't let difficult child take you down with him. {{{hugs}}} [/QUOTE]
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