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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 63189" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>To go or not to go...that is the question. For some of our difficult children</p><p>it is best to leave them on their own to "think". on the other hand, most of</p><p>the time I tend to think it is best with teens to see their parents as a reminder that they are loved and do have choices</p><p>that many of their fellow teens don't have. Having lived thru three s.a. programs with our teen I was totally amazed that very</p><p>very few kids had any family contact at all. At the lst private</p><p>placement (which was a mistake, by the way) and at the last which was</p><p>through juvie less than 1/4 of the kids had any visitors. The</p><p>more high end private s.a. placement required visits weekly</p><p>which included a group session. From what has turned into many</p><p>years experience with s.a. issues, we fully accept the sad fact</p><p>that an addicted kid can love his family but still have to make</p><p>his/her drugs and accompanying lifestyle first in priorities.</p><p>It is ugly.</p><p></p><p>If we had the opportunity to start back at the beginning, we would have found some way to pay for a EGBS and isolated our teen</p><p>from his peer group pronto. We spent years thinking that the next placement or initiative would change things. Long term placement in a well established emotional growth boarding school</p><p>might have cut off the pattern that developed so early.</p><p></p><p>Caring thoughts coming your way. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 63189, member: 35"] To go or not to go...that is the question. For some of our difficult children it is best to leave them on their own to "think". on the other hand, most of the time I tend to think it is best with teens to see their parents as a reminder that they are loved and do have choices that many of their fellow teens don't have. Having lived thru three s.a. programs with our teen I was totally amazed that very very few kids had any family contact at all. At the lst private placement (which was a mistake, by the way) and at the last which was through juvie less than 1/4 of the kids had any visitors. The more high end private s.a. placement required visits weekly which included a group session. From what has turned into many years experience with s.a. issues, we fully accept the sad fact that an addicted kid can love his family but still have to make his/her drugs and accompanying lifestyle first in priorities. It is ugly. If we had the opportunity to start back at the beginning, we would have found some way to pay for a EGBS and isolated our teen from his peer group pronto. We spent years thinking that the next placement or initiative would change things. Long term placement in a well established emotional growth boarding school might have cut off the pattern that developed so early. Caring thoughts coming your way. DDD [/QUOTE]
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