How daughter it go? It is AWESOME that you have a mom of difficult children who lives in the complex. This could be AWESOME support for both mom, and for the boys and dad too.
Now I won't be so nice. Maybe even selfish on your part. I would wait to tell her about this forum. We post about a lot of situations that are emotionally charged. It is OUR safe place (you are part of OUR, of course) and even with-o using names it would be hard for her to NOT figure out who you were from your posts. You and difficult child have a right to privacy and you have a right to a place to vent with-o someone maybe spreading what you say/think around.
I don't want you to have to censor yourself because you shared the forum and then this neighbor starts talkng about what you posted because she read it here. It is one thing if she finds it on her own. I just don't want her to make you feel less able to speak freely here, or to wonder what/if she might be sharing iwth others that you posted here and didn't intend school or anyone else to know at the time.
I hope you don't take this as me being mean or not wanting to share. I just have had gfgbro come here a couple of times and then twist anything I said to upset our parents and even to change things and tell people at school (his daughter went to the same school as thank you for elementary) so that they thought we were upset with us or lying about them. You don't need those types of complications.
I think it is AMAZING that difficult child went to make brownies and play and that the family "gets" the difficult child issues. I am sorry her son had so many problems before he got the right diagnosis. It sounds like he is doing very well in the military.