Poor difficult child (who has been really trying hard lately) had a bad bad bad day and it wasn't even his fault. First, we had to go put some fence posts in next to our fields as we noticed the local teen hooligans were at the annual "destruction of crops derby", again. We have to try to protect the crops, we aren't mega farmers with cash to spare. As difficult child went to put the post driver away in husband's grandpas shed things got dumb. Grandpa is bordering on senile/pudding brained/mean and was drunk. (a long time, mostly smiling functional alcoholic) Since he is "slipping" he imagines everyone is moving his things or taking them. (he forgets where he puts things and accuses others of moving them) husband and gramps have a long standing share and share alike policy with very large and pricey equipment. Anyway, difficult child was putting the driver away as he was told to by husband. Grandpa had a fit about how he needed it (which he did NOT) and used several choice obscenities at difficult child. husband and gramps share a lot but since we rent his land we are serfs in a sense. Grands also live across a driveway and 20 yards away so no way to avoid them. We were given our plot to build so we cannot move. (if you consider it given when we have 10,000 strings and obligations attached to the "gift") This was the second time gramps flipped out on my difficult child. I suspect it is because he is not a blood relation which cheeses me off to no end. difficult child did nothing wrong either time. So, we can bring it up and discuss with gramma and gramps but gramps will "slip" and probably mouth off again for something else because somehow he decided difficult child is his scapegoat. difficult child kind of gets that the man is losing it but it doesn't make him less frustrated or make it more right. The man has stress but he doesn't treat anyone else besides difficult child like that so I am personally offended very much. As if that wasn't enough... We "caught" the culprits from the damage in the fields. Caught as in got the license plate and did a high speed chase to flush them off our road. Called the sheriff and reported the drama. We are hoping for follow up because someone is due a butt chewing from their parents for not just destroying crops on a few peoples fields but doing burn outs all day long and racing up and down our gravel road at 60+ m.p.h The grand finale is that we suspect we discovered who the hooligan is. It is a boy difficult child has known since they played baseball on the same team a couple years ago. The kid is on the footbll team but a year ahead of difficult child. The kid is very popular and usually decent to difficult child or ignores him politely since they are in different circles but was never ever mean to him. Always at least said hi and stuff. The kids Dad is very strict and took driving away from the boy for an entire semester last year for a much smaller infraction. So, a kid difficult child looks up to and a kid who has MAJOR social pull at school will probably lose driving for at least a semester of junior year. Regardless of it being that kids fault and problem to live with, I know difficult child will at least get enough garbage talked to him and about him to really throw him for a loop with his fragile and new found confidence, just because it was our road and us that caught him in the act. Or if the kid is really mad it can be a bad school year for difficult child who finally just got all his ducks in a row. (home life good, iep in school finally, job and sports) *sigh* I feel so awful for difficult child. He really didn't deserve any of this. this is the biggest hoover that ever could hoover!