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<blockquote data-quote="dirobb" data-source="post: 27180" data-attributes="member: 2858"><p>NNT-How I so feel your pain. Blended family here. </p><p></p><p>We got our difficult child 15sd last year when her mom went to jail. We picked her up on Sun, CPS was going to pick her up on Mon (even knowing she had been alone since Fri and was only 14). Unfortunately for us we did not have help from CPS, They washed their hands of her (they had a case file starting since she was 4) But we did get a judge that agreed to only supervised visitation 2 hours one weekend a month if she ever got released.</p><p></p><p>She got released. She's has been out now for about 6 or 7 months. Still no visistation. But she does call and make promises to my difficult child (breaks my heart) We have decided in time she will see the true nature of her mom ( she already states her mom never follows through with anything...she has not talked to CPS about scheduling visitation...calling her back when promised)</p><p></p><p>Sometimes we have a rough few days after a call. But we anticipate that and try to head it off. Our latest call her mom tells her she may be headed back to jail and she needs to have us let her see difficult child before she gets sent away for a long time. I just love how she tries to set us up a s the bad guys. But our difficult child knows the guidelines her mom was to meet before visitation is going to happen. She also knows her mom has not done what she needs to do. </p><p></p><p>It's a long road. I don't know how much of a relationship you had with your difficult child before this. We had on sporadic visitation for 4 years before she came to us and no overnight/home visits in 2 years. So she was not happy with being here. </p><p></p><p>But, I can tell you in the year that she has actually been in our home now. She has made such great progress. She can now be a teenager. She is happy (most of the time) She looks forward to school and participates in sports (year round-so far)</p><p></p><p>As for her mom...you can't help her with her choices. our's continues to make those choices. drug use/ criminal activity. I like you wonder how this does not propel them to change. But I guess addiction overcomes all reason. And you will probably just drive yourself craazy trying to figure it out. </p><p></p><p>I just pray for guidance and love my difficult child the best I can. I can never be her mom but I can be her advocate/protector. </p><p></p><p>pm me if you have any question or just want to talk</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dirobb, post: 27180, member: 2858"] NNT-How I so feel your pain. Blended family here. We got our difficult child 15sd last year when her mom went to jail. We picked her up on Sun, CPS was going to pick her up on Mon (even knowing she had been alone since Fri and was only 14). Unfortunately for us we did not have help from CPS, They washed their hands of her (they had a case file starting since she was 4) But we did get a judge that agreed to only supervised visitation 2 hours one weekend a month if she ever got released. She got released. She's has been out now for about 6 or 7 months. Still no visistation. But she does call and make promises to my difficult child (breaks my heart) We have decided in time she will see the true nature of her mom ( she already states her mom never follows through with anything...she has not talked to CPS about scheduling visitation...calling her back when promised) Sometimes we have a rough few days after a call. But we anticipate that and try to head it off. Our latest call her mom tells her she may be headed back to jail and she needs to have us let her see difficult child before she gets sent away for a long time. I just love how she tries to set us up a s the bad guys. But our difficult child knows the guidelines her mom was to meet before visitation is going to happen. She also knows her mom has not done what she needs to do. It's a long road. I don't know how much of a relationship you had with your difficult child before this. We had on sporadic visitation for 4 years before she came to us and no overnight/home visits in 2 years. So she was not happy with being here. But, I can tell you in the year that she has actually been in our home now. She has made such great progress. She can now be a teenager. She is happy (most of the time) She looks forward to school and participates in sports (year round-so far) As for her mom...you can't help her with her choices. our's continues to make those choices. drug use/ criminal activity. I like you wonder how this does not propel them to change. But I guess addiction overcomes all reason. And you will probably just drive yourself craazy trying to figure it out. I just pray for guidance and love my difficult child the best I can. I can never be her mom but I can be her advocate/protector. pm me if you have any question or just want to talk [/QUOTE]
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