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Difficult Child had his phone taken away in school today ...
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<blockquote data-quote="GoingNorth" data-source="post: 670860" data-attributes="member: 1963"><p>Terry, at his age, and with his behavioral history, what good do you think "making" him do a worksheet is going to do?</p><p></p><p>It isn't going to turn him into a good, supportive, responsible father.</p><p></p><p>It isn't going to cause him to quit abusing drugs.</p><p></p><p>It isn't going to get him out of H's clutches, though I suspect H isn't guilty of anything your son isn't encouraging. And, it isn't going to stop him from using/taking advantage of the mother of his child.</p><p></p><p>It isn't going to find him a proper job and somehow turn him into a responsible, young adult who places working, raising a family, and contributing to society, above having "fun" and doing what he damned well pleases.</p><p></p><p>The time has come to detach and let the chips fall where they may. The usual parental consequences aren't working. They never have worked with your son.</p><p></p><p>It's time for him to face society's consequences. You did your share. You raised him to adulthood. He has shown repeatedly that he wants to play adult games. Let him go and let him face adult consequences for his actions or lack thereof.</p><p></p><p>His history has shown that you and your husband can't change him. Nature vs. nurture, and in his case, nurture wasn't enough. Nature shines through. in my opinion, his only hope is to force him to grow up by turning the responsibility for his future over to him.</p><p></p><p>Hopefully, it'll be rough enough to turn him around. It'll be hellish for you and your husband, but hard decisions often are.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GoingNorth, post: 670860, member: 1963"] Terry, at his age, and with his behavioral history, what good do you think "making" him do a worksheet is going to do? It isn't going to turn him into a good, supportive, responsible father. It isn't going to cause him to quit abusing drugs. It isn't going to get him out of H's clutches, though I suspect H isn't guilty of anything your son isn't encouraging. And, it isn't going to stop him from using/taking advantage of the mother of his child. It isn't going to find him a proper job and somehow turn him into a responsible, young adult who places working, raising a family, and contributing to society, above having "fun" and doing what he damned well pleases. The time has come to detach and let the chips fall where they may. The usual parental consequences aren't working. They never have worked with your son. It's time for him to face society's consequences. You did your share. You raised him to adulthood. He has shown repeatedly that he wants to play adult games. Let him go and let him face adult consequences for his actions or lack thereof. His history has shown that you and your husband can't change him. Nature vs. nurture, and in his case, nurture wasn't enough. Nature shines through. in my opinion, his only hope is to force him to grow up by turning the responsibility for his future over to him. Hopefully, it'll be rough enough to turn him around. It'll be hellish for you and your husband, but hard decisions often are. [/QUOTE]
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