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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 625332" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>I wonder about this all the time. I travel a LOT for work, and some for play, and I have two dogs, 2 cats, and some outdoor city container garden that needs a lot of watering lest it just up and die. My difficult child lives about 6 blocks away....under a bridge. I pay my daughter's friends to stay at the house, walk the dogs, put out the trash, water the plants. They love it. Recently it occured to me that my current housesitter is some one elses's difficult child...finished high school, working at a local coffee shop, THROWN OUT OF HER MOM'S HOUSE for some vague disagreement, now couch surfing and more than delighted to stay in a warm comfortable house with privacy and get paid for it. In fairness she has done a good job but sometimes I'm like...really? why not my own cold wet smelly son? He loves it here, he loves the animals...</p><p></p><p>but I haven't done it.</p><p></p><p>Mostly I'm afraid he'll let friends in, and some of those friends are out and out addicts, sociopaths, and criminals.</p><p></p><p>That is what stops me.</p><p></p><p>Otherwise I would give it a try.</p><p></p><p>Aside from letting you son stay at your house, though, and I don't know the answer to that...but Lucy, his pain issues are his pain issues. He is going to have to figure out how to wend his way through the path of healthcare to figure it out, just like you would. It isn't easy, ever. The emergency room is not the place to make that happen...he needs a regular doctor, regular appointments, and a methodical and thorough evaluation, just the kind of thing our difficult child's are terrible at. </p><p></p><p>I'll be here if you decide to let your son stay and it goes well, if it goes poorly, or you decide not to let him stay (PS he may not want to stay!) Good luck. Do what feels right in your gut.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 625332, member: 17269"] I wonder about this all the time. I travel a LOT for work, and some for play, and I have two dogs, 2 cats, and some outdoor city container garden that needs a lot of watering lest it just up and die. My difficult child lives about 6 blocks away....under a bridge. I pay my daughter's friends to stay at the house, walk the dogs, put out the trash, water the plants. They love it. Recently it occured to me that my current housesitter is some one elses's difficult child...finished high school, working at a local coffee shop, THROWN OUT OF HER MOM'S HOUSE for some vague disagreement, now couch surfing and more than delighted to stay in a warm comfortable house with privacy and get paid for it. In fairness she has done a good job but sometimes I'm like...really? why not my own cold wet smelly son? He loves it here, he loves the animals... but I haven't done it. Mostly I'm afraid he'll let friends in, and some of those friends are out and out addicts, sociopaths, and criminals. That is what stops me. Otherwise I would give it a try. Aside from letting you son stay at your house, though, and I don't know the answer to that...but Lucy, his pain issues are his pain issues. He is going to have to figure out how to wend his way through the path of healthcare to figure it out, just like you would. It isn't easy, ever. The emergency room is not the place to make that happen...he needs a regular doctor, regular appointments, and a methodical and thorough evaluation, just the kind of thing our difficult child's are terrible at. I'll be here if you decide to let your son stay and it goes well, if it goes poorly, or you decide not to let him stay (PS he may not want to stay!) Good luck. Do what feels right in your gut. Echo [/QUOTE]
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