there should be a section for those of us who's husbands(or wives) or ex's(difficult child's dads or moms) are difficult child's themselves. yes it is obviously hard for us to raise kids like this but having a partner who is out there like that is just as difficult. tonight, i opened my ebay and found that husband had ordered a bunch of video games and game systems and movies on MY credit card. now, this is after i told him last week that my card was maxed out and i needed to make an extra large payment on it this month to make sure the interest next month would be covered.....*sigh* so he goes and spends a bunch more on it, i don't even know why it let him but i dread the bill that is coming because there has got to be some kind of fees associated with all these purchases past the limit. this is after a couple weeks ago he spilled coffee all over his(supposed to be our?) laptop and HAD to get a new one right away when we couldn't afford it. the funny thing about that was that he told me i wasn't allowed to use the(our)laptop because i was not 'responsible' enough to look after it properly(Okay there!) for the spending, he thinks it's okay because i bought two things for myself on ebay this month so he should be allowed to buy something too. my total was about $32. his, for the games and laptop and movies and new mouse is at least $1000. plus i pay the bills not him, and he can't see the difference. so i tried to tell him that i think i deserve to buy myself something small because i do most of the kids stuff for all the kids, some of which are his not mine. i have to go to alot of meetings and appointments and i NEED to look descent to be taken seriously. i also quit smoking and he still smokes so that is a big expence he has, as well as his stupid WOW memberships and character needing new gear all the time. i swear, he's just as bad as a kid only he knows how to access more stuff and i can't ground him or send him to his room.