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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 19333" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>Barb, My husband doesn't keep me from doing things I enjoy. He used to years ago but I reached a point where I didn't stand for it anymore. I learned not to rely on him for emotional support and have found other ways of getting that. He is a very hurt person having been raised by a mentally ill mother and an avoidant father. He is an avoidant personality like his dad and hates any uncomfortable feelings. He either pushes them away or if he can't gets angry. He is progressing in allowing himself to feel things but he is so unevolved in that area compared to me. We used to get along beautifully because I was such a co-dependant.</p><p>Since I have recovered from that we do not get along as well. He needs to catch up and I have realized that he probably never will. I accept that. There are still good times. But that doesn't mean that I don't long for a more complete relationship.</p><p>I would never act on that longing though without divorcing husband first. </p><p></p><p>Sue, my husband is diagnosis ADHD. He is very very succesful though. He earned a PHD, is published and worked with various government agencies and private companies as a consultant for years. He is now working for the US government. He knows his strenghts and weaknesses and delegates out the things he is not good at to others. But at home he doesn't do as well since I demand a democracy and he would prefer to be KING.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 19333, member: 2315"] Barb, My husband doesn't keep me from doing things I enjoy. He used to years ago but I reached a point where I didn't stand for it anymore. I learned not to rely on him for emotional support and have found other ways of getting that. He is a very hurt person having been raised by a mentally ill mother and an avoidant father. He is an avoidant personality like his dad and hates any uncomfortable feelings. He either pushes them away or if he can't gets angry. He is progressing in allowing himself to feel things but he is so unevolved in that area compared to me. We used to get along beautifully because I was such a co-dependant. Since I have recovered from that we do not get along as well. He needs to catch up and I have realized that he probably never will. I accept that. There are still good times. But that doesn't mean that I don't long for a more complete relationship. I would never act on that longing though without divorcing husband first. Sue, my husband is diagnosis ADHD. He is very very succesful though. He earned a PHD, is published and worked with various government agencies and private companies as a consultant for years. He is now working for the US government. He knows his strenghts and weaknesses and delegates out the things he is not good at to others. But at home he doesn't do as well since I demand a democracy and he would prefer to be KING. [/QUOTE]
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