Got a call from our oldest last night she was very upset. Our Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) daughter difficult child (2.5 year estranged from us but still keeps up "a little" with our oldest) had contacted our oldest announcing she would arrive in a few hours... she was taking an "emergency flight" to OUR former "home town" area. (Where hubby and I grew up, our oldest attended college, graduated, now lives and works. Most of our extended family still lives.) The purpose of difficult child's "emergency flight" was for our Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) difficult child to "help a friend get their kids." daughter difficult child's mental illness (Reactive Attachment Disorder) causes the "cause and effect reasoning part of the brain" to not work very well. We have tons of examples of how she's entered stupid dangerous situations and not recognized the "Red Flags" obvious to others. Another aspect of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is people with this condition have a knack to be very charmingly deceitful. difficult child is smart, but unstable. As unstable as difficult child is, one symptom of her disease is can appear to be quite "with it." difficult child has, in her estrangement attended a community college program and is now an officer of the law (in our neighboring town) carrying a gun and a badge and is working for her ex-boyfriend's dad, who is currently under scrutiny for hiding his employee's thefts of prescription medication out of the city's evidence room. (Police are above the law... aren't they?) Our oldest said she didn't know if difficult child's trip was "official police business" or not... but difficult child had said that MY HUBBY'S SISTER was rushing to the airport to "help" difficult child "save" the kids. I would think OFFICIAL police business of transporting children out-of-state in an emergency would involve OTHER law enforcement agencies, NOT my nosy/meddling sister-in-law... what do you think? Oldest healthy Daughter said she had no idea who difficult child's "new friend" was, had never heard difficult child mention this person before last night. After Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)'s plane landed up there, Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) clarified to our oldest she was traveling with "the husband" to get "the kids." difficult child daughter did not specify if "the husband" is also "the father" of the kids she had flown in "to save." difficult child did explain to our oldest that "the mother" was not legally allowed to leave our county, which is why she didn't accompany difficult child and "the husband" to get the kids. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)'s reason for informing our oldest of everything was "so they could meet" since she was going to be "in town." Our oldest didn't like the sound of ANY of what was going on... and told our difficult child since her trip was so short and focused on "helping her friend" she'd rather plan to meet her another time, when she wouldn't be accompanied by her "friends." We only have the info as relayed to oldest by difficult child. To me it kinda-sorta-sounds like... a) our difficult child is continuing to choose "interesting" friends b) If "the husband" is not "the dad" this might be kidnapping What do you think?