elizabrary
Well-Known Member
I haven't been on here much for about the last month because difficult child and my granddaughter are back at my house, and I didn't really want to hear how stupid I was, since I obviously know that anyway. But today I'm just going to vent away on this post about how awful it is to have her in my house and about how awful she is! How did I end up with-a daughter like this? At any rate, about a month ago (maybe more, time has kind of stopped) she showed up at my door at 2:30 am. She had packed as much as she could in her car- mostly just clothes and a few of K's toys. I found out later she had been living with-IG and his ex-girlfriend as he had talked her into an "open" relationship. WTF??? And my poor granddaughter is living in this mess. So she finally got sick of it and came back to my house- lucky me. She continues to tell me what a great guy IG is- well, he's not so great now. He will not give her any of her stuff back. She is sleeping on my couch, has no furniture, nothing. She is supposed to be starting a job in a week. Who knows if she will really follow through? She did get K enrolled in a daycare at the local Salvation Army with-four weeks free to allow her to get on her feet. Thank God because she is not the mother I would like her to be. The baby is clean, fed, etc. But she spends an awful lot of time on the computer and phone worrying about her social life like she is a carefree teenager while the baby wanders around bored. It literally makes me sick to my stomach. She takes the baby and goes and spends the night with her friends- how does that make any sense? When I talk to her about any of this she screams that all I want to do is put her down and she's a good mother, blah, blah, blah. It's insanity.
We have had 3 or 4 major blowouts and they are always the same insane, irrational fights because she immediately gets enraged that I speak to her about anything she might need to work on in her life. She helps around the house some- usually only when I ask her and then half-heartedly. I have been supporting them and it's like she doesn't appreciate it at all. Don't get me wrong, I knew how she was when I let her come back home, but really, I'm speechless at the horribleness that is Kat. I wrote her a letter today telling her she had 2 weeks to show me she is seeking affordable housing. I can't keep this up. I'm a nervous wreck all the time, worried about the baby and not sleeping. She thinks she should be out running around all the time having fun and she has a 19-month-old baby. The baby is a delight- no developmental problems, in fact, she's ahead of her age, which is a miracle. And I know I can't do anything because CPS called me shortly after Kat came back and told me the case was closed. I told the caseworker Kat was back at my house and what should I do if she disappeared again, and she said just file a report with-CPS. That's another huge concern- who knows when she just won't come home again. She wouldn't be in my house at all if it weren't for K, but I can't turn the poor baby out! OMG I'm a basket case! Not looking for advice, really, just a vent that I have nowhere else to vent to!
We have had 3 or 4 major blowouts and they are always the same insane, irrational fights because she immediately gets enraged that I speak to her about anything she might need to work on in her life. She helps around the house some- usually only when I ask her and then half-heartedly. I have been supporting them and it's like she doesn't appreciate it at all. Don't get me wrong, I knew how she was when I let her come back home, but really, I'm speechless at the horribleness that is Kat. I wrote her a letter today telling her she had 2 weeks to show me she is seeking affordable housing. I can't keep this up. I'm a nervous wreck all the time, worried about the baby and not sleeping. She thinks she should be out running around all the time having fun and she has a 19-month-old baby. The baby is a delight- no developmental problems, in fact, she's ahead of her age, which is a miracle. And I know I can't do anything because CPS called me shortly after Kat came back and told me the case was closed. I told the caseworker Kat was back at my house and what should I do if she disappeared again, and she said just file a report with-CPS. That's another huge concern- who knows when she just won't come home again. She wouldn't be in my house at all if it weren't for K, but I can't turn the poor baby out! OMG I'm a basket case! Not looking for advice, really, just a vent that I have nowhere else to vent to!
