Well, the weekend is coming to an end. Will be taking grandson and uncle to the larger town near us after lunch. DGS's other grandparents live there so will drop him off. His parents were celebrating their anniversary so they dropped off the two younger boys with their grandma and we got to have the girls biobrother visit. The uncle will fly home (about 1500 miles away) Bit he has already told the girls that he will be back in the future. It may not be often, but I think he will keep in touch.
DGS (who will be 17) talked to us with out difficult child around last night, and he told us he would see us more, but his sister (difficult child one) is so annoying. She will start fights with little sis, or her over the top actions and attitudes irritate him. He said he and his guy friends at his school avoid girls like her as they are too much drama and are high maitenance ... He even told us she called her BFF down the street when husband and I went to the store for food. Then BFF came to our house and was actually trying to hide when husband came in. He said he tried to tell her that she shouldn't have a friend over if we aren't home.
DGS has really matured and I give the credit to his "mom" who married his biodad. He was being tardy to his first class his first year in high school, and his mom told him that if he was late again, she wouldn't drop him off at school any more. She would park the car, take the youngest brother, put him in a stroller, hold the hand of the next older little brother, and then walk him thru the school to his first class to make sure he got there. He said she knew he would do it... so he straightened up. He also has to keep a 3.0 grade average to get to ride to school with his friend... so he brought and kept his grades up. I wish that type of motivation worked with difficult child - as it only sends her in to a tail spin. more lies. and more tantrums.
We feel blessed, that ever though we "lost" DGS to bio dad, we have been able to be a part of his life and have gained his parents as friends, and their parents too. And now. we have got to know our girls oldest brother, and now his uncle, and even fb friends with stepmom. We keep in touch with maternal grandparents, but they live halfway across the USA from us and aren't really computer savy...
I guess I feel it is important - as we are "older" parents who won't probably be able to be around by the time are kids are 30 to 40 years old. We want them to have other connections... KSM