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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 676547" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Ca Mom, the continued texts are so hard. If you can, step away from those for a few hours or a day. Block the number if you can or have to. Taking a break will help you get back to level ground. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Like New Leaf said, it is a threat. My son used to do that all the time. "Well, then, I'll just...." Whatever it was. How juvenile and how cruel and how painful for us. It's just where they are right now, and we can't plug enough holes in their "dam" to keep them from doing whatever they are going to do. Release him to his own decisions and choices again. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It's not your fault. I see us as fully human here on this board. We ache and we cry and we grieve and we are encouraged by any small glimmer of hope and we want the best for them. That is what it is to be fully human, and it hurts a lot. This is what normal looks like. Drawing the line between being encouraging and being enabling is our work, I believe. That is where we have to put our focus and our energy. Because enabling people hurts us and it hurts them. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yay! Please go. Make it a priority if you can. This is the pathway to peace, using the tools that are available to us to get stronger and develop more skills. </p><p></p><p>We're here for you. We've been here and we'll stay here because this forum is a tool that we use to strengthen ourselves in this journey. </p><p></p><p>Warm hugs this morning. It's cold here in the South too!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 676547, member: 17542"] Ca Mom, the continued texts are so hard. If you can, step away from those for a few hours or a day. Block the number if you can or have to. Taking a break will help you get back to level ground. Like New Leaf said, it is a threat. My son used to do that all the time. "Well, then, I'll just...." Whatever it was. How juvenile and how cruel and how painful for us. It's just where they are right now, and we can't plug enough holes in their "dam" to keep them from doing whatever they are going to do. Release him to his own decisions and choices again. It's not your fault. I see us as fully human here on this board. We ache and we cry and we grieve and we are encouraged by any small glimmer of hope and we want the best for them. That is what it is to be fully human, and it hurts a lot. This is what normal looks like. Drawing the line between being encouraging and being enabling is our work, I believe. That is where we have to put our focus and our energy. Because enabling people hurts us and it hurts them. Yay! Please go. Make it a priority if you can. This is the pathway to peace, using the tools that are available to us to get stronger and develop more skills. We're here for you. We've been here and we'll stay here because this forum is a tool that we use to strengthen ourselves in this journey. Warm hugs this morning. It's cold here in the South too! [/QUOTE]
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