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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 631247" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>This is the path we are all on here. And, it's not so much that it will take a long time, it will take as long as it takes, however, that time will be significantly shorter and a whole lot easier if you find as much support as you can. 12 step groups, Families anonymous, therapy, therapy groups, reading, practicing what all the books say and what your support system says will bring you back to yourself, will bring you peace of mind, will bring your joy back and will offer you a new perspective you weren't aware you could shift to.</p><p></p><p>This journey goes against our natural instincts to save our kids, to help them, to bring them through a dark place back in to the light. However, once they are adults, that journey is theirs to take, not ours. By continuing to enable them, we take away their abilities to help themselves and we enter an insane zone of powerlessness and control which harms them and us.</p><p></p><p>Letting go, the way we are pushed in to here, has many pitfalls along the way, however, letting go offers a unique and liberating opportunity for you to attain freedoms, insights, gifts and a level of detachment and acceptance that will change your life...................and I would venture to say...............for the better. </p><p></p><p>Get as much support as you can, read all those books, practice putting the focus on to yourself, keep posting you'll make it to the other side.................hang in there.........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 631247, member: 13542"] This is the path we are all on here. And, it's not so much that it will take a long time, it will take as long as it takes, however, that time will be significantly shorter and a whole lot easier if you find as much support as you can. 12 step groups, Families anonymous, therapy, therapy groups, reading, practicing what all the books say and what your support system says will bring you back to yourself, will bring you peace of mind, will bring your joy back and will offer you a new perspective you weren't aware you could shift to. This journey goes against our natural instincts to save our kids, to help them, to bring them through a dark place back in to the light. However, once they are adults, that journey is theirs to take, not ours. By continuing to enable them, we take away their abilities to help themselves and we enter an insane zone of powerlessness and control which harms them and us. Letting go, the way we are pushed in to here, has many pitfalls along the way, however, letting go offers a unique and liberating opportunity for you to attain freedoms, insights, gifts and a level of detachment and acceptance that will change your life...................and I would venture to say...............for the better. Get as much support as you can, read all those books, practice putting the focus on to yourself, keep posting you'll make it to the other side.................hang in there......... [/QUOTE]
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