I live in Vermont. My difficult child is 21 and in Oregon. As of yesterday she is officially homeless and living on the streets. Literally...in a sleeping bag with her "friends" on the streets. She is hanging out with a bunch of homeless kids her age (has been for a few months). Over the last 3 years my mother & I have supported her, paid for apartments, helped her look for a job, and everything else in between. We told her we are done. She is cut off. She refuses to find work, loses a job when she finds one, lost 3 apartments, and is doing drugs & drinking. I've helped locate resources for housing and jobs and she refuses to do anything with that information. My heart is broken. I'm sad. I'm angry. But I'm trying to cope with all that. The question I have is this...what do I say when she calls? Normally she calls daily. She tells me all the awful things that are happening or asks me questions about what she should do in certain situations. Am I supposed to be angry with her when she calls? Do I pat her on the head and say everything will be ok? I just don't know what to say to her anymore. It has been just me and her for most of her life. I'm all she has. I'm just so confused right now. I really don't know what my attitude should be with her when she calls. I'm looking to do the "right" thing for her and right now I just don't know what that its.