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difficult child is homeless- what do I say to her
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<blockquote data-quote="Joyfullyme" data-source="post: 664923" data-attributes="member: 19400"><p>I am sorry you are experiencing this with your daughter. My son is also 3000 miles away and doing the same, exact thing. I second what SWOT said about handling phone calls - I listen and just make noises "Mmmmmmm...." or "wow, that stinks!" or "what do you plan to do?" and when it just gets too heavy or negative, I say I have to go, I love you! </p><p></p><p>A little while ago I told him no contact until he is doing what he needs to do to support whatever lifestyle he chooses to live. That worked until he got out of detox a week ago. Now I'm just not answering my phone - I said no contact until he was doing something positive and I meant it.</p><p></p><p>Another thing that helped me was to not answer the phone every time he called. I decided on a time of the day I would talk to him or return his calls/messages - then I wasn't being yanked around all day long by all of his drama and negativity. </p><p></p><p>He has lost his phone so right now so he only calls when he is able to find a phone to use. As I said, I am not answering it right now because I know he is in the middle of self-created drama and I am just done with all of it.</p><p></p><p>Hope this helps! Hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Joyfullyme, post: 664923, member: 19400"] I am sorry you are experiencing this with your daughter. My son is also 3000 miles away and doing the same, exact thing. I second what SWOT said about handling phone calls - I listen and just make noises "Mmmmmmm...." or "wow, that stinks!" or "what do you plan to do?" and when it just gets too heavy or negative, I say I have to go, I love you! A little while ago I told him no contact until he is doing what he needs to do to support whatever lifestyle he chooses to live. That worked until he got out of detox a week ago. Now I'm just not answering my phone - I said no contact until he was doing something positive and I meant it. Another thing that helped me was to not answer the phone every time he called. I decided on a time of the day I would talk to him or return his calls/messages - then I wasn't being yanked around all day long by all of his drama and negativity. He has lost his phone so right now so he only calls when he is able to find a phone to use. As I said, I am not answering it right now because I know he is in the middle of self-created drama and I am just done with all of it. Hope this helps! Hugs! [/QUOTE]
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