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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 48325" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">So difficult child said to me, "Aren't you proud of me? I never got kicked out of school or got in trouble with the law because of my drinking."</div></div></p><p></p><p>Yowzah! Sounds like my son, who thinks he's one of the "smart" potheads who doesn't get caught or do stupid things like the "dumb" potheads who get caught or get themselves killed.</p><p></p><p>All I can think of is that in an addict's world, their moral compass and values are so distorted that <strong>anything</strong> can be viewed as positive or negative, depending on (a) <em>how they want to perceive their circumstances</em>, and (b) <em>how they want to represent themselves and their circumstances to other people</em>.</p><p></p><p>Anything they do or don't do, anything anyone <strong>else</strong> does or doesn't do, is fodder for building up internal and external support for their life choice (whatever it may be). Reality, as I've found, is vary rarely a part of such evaluations in their mind.</p><p></p><p>It does make it hard to communicate with them, doesn't it?</p><p></p><p>As an aside, I'm a fan of Science Fiction. I once read a book where humans were trying to understand the technology of another race that had conquered Earth, and never could. At least, not until one of the aliens told the humans that their number system was based on 0-12, not 0-10. They had a completely different thought process in place that prevented the humans from "understanding" them.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes, when I talk with my son, I feel like that human trying to understand an alien.....</p><p> :hypnosis:</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 48325, member: 3579"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">So difficult child said to me, "Aren't you proud of me? I never got kicked out of school or got in trouble with the law because of my drinking."</div></div> Yowzah! Sounds like my son, who thinks he's one of the "smart" potheads who doesn't get caught or do stupid things like the "dumb" potheads who get caught or get themselves killed. All I can think of is that in an addict's world, their moral compass and values are so distorted that [b]anything[/b] can be viewed as positive or negative, depending on (a) [i]how they want to perceive their circumstances[/i], and (b) [i]how they want to represent themselves and their circumstances to other people[/i]. Anything they do or don't do, anything anyone [b]else[/b] does or doesn't do, is fodder for building up internal and external support for their life choice (whatever it may be). Reality, as I've found, is vary rarely a part of such evaluations in their mind. It does make it hard to communicate with them, doesn't it? As an aside, I'm a fan of Science Fiction. I once read a book where humans were trying to understand the technology of another race that had conquered Earth, and never could. At least, not until one of the aliens told the humans that their number system was based on 0-12, not 0-10. They had a completely different thought process in place that prevented the humans from "understanding" them. Sometimes, when I talk with my son, I feel like that human trying to understand an alien..... [img]:hypnosis:[/img] Mikey [/QUOTE]
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