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<blockquote data-quote="Suz" data-source="post: 7938" data-attributes="member: 29"><p>HH, I think the best advice I can give you right now is to not say anything unless you are fully prepared to follow through. If you tell him that he has to check in or he's out....and he doesn't check in and you don't kick him out, your credibility is sunk. </p><p></p><p>It really helped us to have a written contract with Rob...with consequences spelled out in the contract with no "wiggle room." Rob participated in designing the contract and the consequences so he had no reason to squawk when we followed through. It also made it easier on us to be able to refer to the contract, "Well, son, as stated on the contract you agreed to X..."</p><p></p><p>Everyone signs and dates the contract....Mom, Dad, and difficult child.</p><p></p><p>If not checking in even one night will constitute eviction, it needs to say that, too. You need to be as specific as possible....you can't say "be respectful" because that is relative and our kids' definition of "respectful" is certainly different from ours. :hammer:</p><p></p><p>Talk to husband to find out what you really can't live with- what are the real deal breakers for you then address those. I would not make too many rules because they are too difficult to manage. </p><p></p><p>Suz</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Suz, post: 7938, member: 29"] HH, I think the best advice I can give you right now is to not say anything unless you are fully prepared to follow through. If you tell him that he has to check in or he's out....and he doesn't check in and you don't kick him out, your credibility is sunk. It really helped us to have a written contract with Rob...with consequences spelled out in the contract with no "wiggle room." Rob participated in designing the contract and the consequences so he had no reason to squawk when we followed through. It also made it easier on us to be able to refer to the contract, "Well, son, as stated on the contract you agreed to X..." Everyone signs and dates the contract....Mom, Dad, and difficult child. If not checking in even one night will constitute eviction, it needs to say that, too. You need to be as specific as possible....you can't say "be respectful" because that is relative and our kids' definition of "respectful" is certainly different from ours. [img]:hammer:[/img] Talk to husband to find out what you really can't live with- what are the real deal breakers for you then address those. I would not make too many rules because they are too difficult to manage. Suz [/QUOTE]
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