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PatriotsGirl
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She told us last week that she was moving out of our home and in with a couple of room mates that she works with (she has been working in a restaurant). They are supposedly sharing a house about 15 minutes from here near where they work. Her friend had the house to himself and her and two other friends were moving in. We kind of knew this would happen as soon as she came of age which is Sunday. It's different this time. There was no fight, no argument, no event prior to her leaving. She even came by over the weekend to take some stuff and was very respectful and nice while she was here and told us she loved us when she left. We hope she can behave like that every time she comes to visit.
Now, how long this will last, who knows. I hope this is what it takes for her to grow up and take responsibility for herself but I am not exactly cleaning out the bedroom, either. I told her that we love her deeply and we will be here shoud she decide she needs help. She is not taking any medications and there is nothing I can do now to enforce that now.
She told me she has two more job interviews today. difficult child is definitely going to need to work more than one job to support herself - especially since the restaurant is only $4.00 per hour (probably plus tips, but I don't know). She will not give me her address - says she will visit us here. That definitely bugs me, but not sure I can do anything about that, either?
How much is she telling the truth about anything? I will never know. I don't trust anything she says because she lies soooo much and is sooo good at it. But, she is legally allowed to move out and there is nothing we can do about it, not that we would even want to.
Now I am trying to let go. How in the world do you let go??? I find myself still wanting to know every inch of her business. I left her cellphone on, even though husband wanted to shut it off. I told him she will need that for work to be able to call her and interviews, etc. I do not want to hinder her being able to provide for herself. But I find myself checking the phone records daily to see when she has been on the phone and when she possibly sleeps. I am going to drive myself crazy doing that. I need to stop. Just make sure she is not going over on our minutes and that is it.
So, how do you let go? I even kind of miss her as wierd as that may sound...
Now, how long this will last, who knows. I hope this is what it takes for her to grow up and take responsibility for herself but I am not exactly cleaning out the bedroom, either. I told her that we love her deeply and we will be here shoud she decide she needs help. She is not taking any medications and there is nothing I can do now to enforce that now.
She told me she has two more job interviews today. difficult child is definitely going to need to work more than one job to support herself - especially since the restaurant is only $4.00 per hour (probably plus tips, but I don't know). She will not give me her address - says she will visit us here. That definitely bugs me, but not sure I can do anything about that, either?
How much is she telling the truth about anything? I will never know. I don't trust anything she says because she lies soooo much and is sooo good at it. But, she is legally allowed to move out and there is nothing we can do about it, not that we would even want to.
Now I am trying to let go. How in the world do you let go??? I find myself still wanting to know every inch of her business. I left her cellphone on, even though husband wanted to shut it off. I told him she will need that for work to be able to call her and interviews, etc. I do not want to hinder her being able to provide for herself. But I find myself checking the phone records daily to see when she has been on the phone and when she possibly sleeps. I am going to drive myself crazy doing that. I need to stop. Just make sure she is not going over on our minutes and that is it.
So, how do you let go? I even kind of miss her as wierd as that may sound...
