I haven't been on the board much these last ten days or so - since the bank I'm assigned to laid off 80% of the workforce over a week ago. I'm up to my eyeballs in alligators.
Midwest Mom was right - there are people who will clearly walk through Hades to be able to become parents and raise a baby. N* and I met such a couple yesterday. N* was given the profiles of several people interested in adopting to review, and if she found one she really liked, she could meet them. (All were apprised prior to N*'s review of their profile just how difficult this adoption might be because of the number of Potential Sperm Donors "PSD").
N* reviewed the profiles first - kept her selection to herself, and then I went through them. We both picked the same couple. We repeated the process with N*'s older brother and his wife - they picked the same couple.
The social worker contacted them, and we met yesterday. They were even better in person. Before the hour appointment was up, N* invited both of them to attend her next ob/gyn appointment, and assured them she wanted them to be the parents, and while she knew she would be emotional after delivery, she wanted them to know she was going through with the adoption. WOW! She has even backed off on her earlier demands that she name the baby. I had tears in my eyes watching my difficult child show more maturity than I could ever dream was possible. The couple were both teary eyed by then.
Good news today - the one PSD who said he would contest the adoption sent N* a text today and told her he if he were the "birth father" he would sign away his paternal rights. WooHoo!!!
N* has finally come around to realizing she (nor any of the PSDs) are in a position right now to properly care for a baby - and she is truly thinking about what is best for the baby, not herself, not the PSDs, not me, not the other grandparents - just the baby.
I'll make some time to catch up with the board happenings while I've been away.
Good wishes and prayers to all of you in your current situations.
Midwest Mom was right - there are people who will clearly walk through Hades to be able to become parents and raise a baby. N* and I met such a couple yesterday. N* was given the profiles of several people interested in adopting to review, and if she found one she really liked, she could meet them. (All were apprised prior to N*'s review of their profile just how difficult this adoption might be because of the number of Potential Sperm Donors "PSD").
N* reviewed the profiles first - kept her selection to herself, and then I went through them. We both picked the same couple. We repeated the process with N*'s older brother and his wife - they picked the same couple.
The social worker contacted them, and we met yesterday. They were even better in person. Before the hour appointment was up, N* invited both of them to attend her next ob/gyn appointment, and assured them she wanted them to be the parents, and while she knew she would be emotional after delivery, she wanted them to know she was going through with the adoption. WOW! She has even backed off on her earlier demands that she name the baby. I had tears in my eyes watching my difficult child show more maturity than I could ever dream was possible. The couple were both teary eyed by then.
Good news today - the one PSD who said he would contest the adoption sent N* a text today and told her he if he were the "birth father" he would sign away his paternal rights. WooHoo!!!
N* has finally come around to realizing she (nor any of the PSDs) are in a position right now to properly care for a baby - and she is truly thinking about what is best for the baby, not herself, not the PSDs, not me, not the other grandparents - just the baby.
I'll make some time to catch up with the board happenings while I've been away.
Good wishes and prayers to all of you in your current situations.
