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<blockquote data-quote="HeadlightsMom" data-source="post: 647053" data-attributes="member: 18284"><p>RE -- You asked if it was easier for me holding onto "neutrality". Well, I wouldn't word it as "neutrality", per se, for me. Although there are elements of it that are neutral and detached, I kind of think of it more as living in The Big Picture. I view The Big Picture as benevolent, not neutral. Could be wrong about that, but, hey, feels more benevolent to me so I'm goin' with that! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>So, to answer your question..........does it feel easier now (living in The Big Picture -- that which is beyond self) than it used to? OH MY YES! Oh, sure, I still feel hurt. I still worry. But when I let go and trust The Big Picture (call that God, Higher Power, Universe, etc), I can see a reason for so much of it.</p><p></p><p>Our son is in our lives not just for us to teach him, but for him to teach us. And, whatever crazy road it takes (and as you all know it takes CRAZY roads with our difficult child's sometimes), I know in my heart that we were meant to be his parents and he was meant to be our son. And, in The Big Picture, that makes all the sense in the world to me.</p><p></p><p>MUCH EASIER. Thank you, RE, for giving me a question with reason to pause, ponder and remember. We each get to choose our sense of meaning. I choose this.......... The Big Benevolent Picture. It's good to see the forest, rather than just the trees.</p><p></p><p>With all the chaos in the world, life still thrives and continues.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HeadlightsMom, post: 647053, member: 18284"] RE -- You asked if it was easier for me holding onto "neutrality". Well, I wouldn't word it as "neutrality", per se, for me. Although there are elements of it that are neutral and detached, I kind of think of it more as living in The Big Picture. I view The Big Picture as benevolent, not neutral. Could be wrong about that, but, hey, feels more benevolent to me so I'm goin' with that! :) So, to answer your question..........does it feel easier now (living in The Big Picture -- that which is beyond self) than it used to? OH MY YES! Oh, sure, I still feel hurt. I still worry. But when I let go and trust The Big Picture (call that God, Higher Power, Universe, etc), I can see a reason for so much of it. Our son is in our lives not just for us to teach him, but for him to teach us. And, whatever crazy road it takes (and as you all know it takes CRAZY roads with our difficult child's sometimes), I know in my heart that we were meant to be his parents and he was meant to be our son. And, in The Big Picture, that makes all the sense in the world to me. MUCH EASIER. Thank you, RE, for giving me a question with reason to pause, ponder and remember. We each get to choose our sense of meaning. I choose this.......... The Big Benevolent Picture. It's good to see the forest, rather than just the trees. With all the chaos in the world, life still thrives and continues. [/QUOTE]
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