Californiablonde
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And now it's too late. I should have thought it through a little more before deciding to have difficult child come to the school where I work. Twice this week she has already caused me problems. Monday she felt sick from her ulcers acting up so she went to the nurse's office. She threw up several times in the bathroom. The nurse told my daughter to come to me and call me into her office. When she came I came in there the nurse told me that difficult child had been in her office for an hour complaining of stomach pains. Normally they have a fifteen minute rule where the kid either goes home or goes back to class. Since difficult child has already missed so much school due to her illness, I wanted her to try and make it through the rest of the day. Usually after difficult child throws up she feels better. On a few ocassions she has been sent home ill by the nurse, only to have me come home and find her playing around on the computer and not feeling sick at all whatsoever. So I'm trying to avoid it from happening again. So the nurse and I both told difficult child to go back to class. difficult child cried, hugged me, begged me to let her go home. I told her firmly that she needed to make it to the rest of her classes. The nurse backed me up. difficult child continued to cry and refused to go. Finally the school psychiatric was called in and had a talk with her. I don't know how he did it, but he finally convinced difficult child to go to class. As I had suspected, she made it through the rest of the day just fine. But if I hadn't worked at the same school, the drama could have been avoided all together.
Then there's the incident that happened today. Students here are not allowed in the office during lunch break. difficult child has attempted to come visit me in the past during her lunch and she has been told she cannot do it. So today I come back from my lunch break to find difficult child sitting outside eating her lunch by herself. I kindly suggested to her that she go to the cafeteria where she has a better opportunity to meet new friends. She declined and stated she wanted to sit with me till the bell rang. I reminded her of the school rules and went back to work. A few minutes later she comes into my office and sits down at the table across from my desk. I tell her to leave before both of us gets in trouble. Then my phone rings and I answer it. After the call I see difficult child still sitting there so I tell her to please leave now. She continued to argue with me. The bell was about to ring for the next class so I just gave up and let her sit there, figuring it was only a few minutes and would probably be okay. Then my supervisor comes in. She sees difficult child sitting there and she is not happy. She tells my daughter to leave. My daughter asked me if she could get permission from an administrator to stay with me, since once before an assistant principal said it was okay. I told her that she could not get permission from anybody. She then asked me who was in charge. My supervisor then started yelling at her and telling her that she was the one in charge, it's "her" office (it's not) and that she is telling her to leave and she needs to do it right now. difficult child finally left.
After she was gone, my supervisor then gets mad at me and tells me she doesn't appreciate my daughter undermining her authority. I apologize and tell her that I backed her up and told her to leave. It's not like I sat around and let my daughter stay when she was told to leave. Supervisor was not happy with my explanation. I apologized again, only to get the silent treatment. This is the same coworker who has previously yelled at me in front of students, given me the silent treatment for weeks at a time, and deleted and blocked me from facebook when she found out my cat was given up for adoption then euthanized. This woman can make my work life a living hell if she wants to. And trust me, she will. So difficult child got me in trouble and now I am the one who has to suffer the consequences. Each time my supervisor gets mad at me and treats me bad I get severe anxiety attacks. I don't deserve to have a hostile work environment. But that's what I am going to have to put up with for who knows how long. I really think I made a mistake having my daughter come to school here. Now that we've moved there's nothing I can do about it. All I can do is try and make the best of it and hope it gets better. But for now, having difficult child here is something I regret.
Then there's the incident that happened today. Students here are not allowed in the office during lunch break. difficult child has attempted to come visit me in the past during her lunch and she has been told she cannot do it. So today I come back from my lunch break to find difficult child sitting outside eating her lunch by herself. I kindly suggested to her that she go to the cafeteria where she has a better opportunity to meet new friends. She declined and stated she wanted to sit with me till the bell rang. I reminded her of the school rules and went back to work. A few minutes later she comes into my office and sits down at the table across from my desk. I tell her to leave before both of us gets in trouble. Then my phone rings and I answer it. After the call I see difficult child still sitting there so I tell her to please leave now. She continued to argue with me. The bell was about to ring for the next class so I just gave up and let her sit there, figuring it was only a few minutes and would probably be okay. Then my supervisor comes in. She sees difficult child sitting there and she is not happy. She tells my daughter to leave. My daughter asked me if she could get permission from an administrator to stay with me, since once before an assistant principal said it was okay. I told her that she could not get permission from anybody. She then asked me who was in charge. My supervisor then started yelling at her and telling her that she was the one in charge, it's "her" office (it's not) and that she is telling her to leave and she needs to do it right now. difficult child finally left.
After she was gone, my supervisor then gets mad at me and tells me she doesn't appreciate my daughter undermining her authority. I apologize and tell her that I backed her up and told her to leave. It's not like I sat around and let my daughter stay when she was told to leave. Supervisor was not happy with my explanation. I apologized again, only to get the silent treatment. This is the same coworker who has previously yelled at me in front of students, given me the silent treatment for weeks at a time, and deleted and blocked me from facebook when she found out my cat was given up for adoption then euthanized. This woman can make my work life a living hell if she wants to. And trust me, she will. So difficult child got me in trouble and now I am the one who has to suffer the consequences. Each time my supervisor gets mad at me and treats me bad I get severe anxiety attacks. I don't deserve to have a hostile work environment. But that's what I am going to have to put up with for who knows how long. I really think I made a mistake having my daughter come to school here. Now that we've moved there's nothing I can do about it. All I can do is try and make the best of it and hope it gets better. But for now, having difficult child here is something I regret.