TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
husband took difficult child to his regular psychiatric appointment yesterday and boy, did the sparks fly.
Interesting that it's no longer just mom's fault. Although he did verbally abuse me on the way home (I picked him up) but I was able to ignore it, knowing that he was stressed. He calmed down at home after about 45 min.
First off, husband addressed the issue of getting up difficult child in the a.m. and arguing about taking his pill. It is a totally nonnegotiable item. Basket A. He gave husband a really hard time over the weekend, gave me a hard time, and got in a fight with-his friends last Fri. after orientation. So it's (his anger, whatever) overflowing the family spot and affecting his outside relationships. At any rate, husband said, "Now, you're not going to give me a hard time in the a.m. when you take your pill."
And difficult child replied, "I don't know. It depends upon how I feel."
Say what?!
That was a half hr discussion.
The other half was about lying to both the psychiatric and husband about the panties, and telling the police the truth.
Of course, difficult child said he was embarrassed and didn't want to talk about it, so lying was an avoidance tactic. He just couldn't see the logic and expediency in that telling the truth will get it overwith, and lying makes for other lies, which perpetuates the whole thing and drags it out. Not to mention that it's dishonest.
No surprise that he's home this a.m. with-a stomach ache. I think he's still stressed from yesterday.
Interesting that it's no longer just mom's fault. Although he did verbally abuse me on the way home (I picked him up) but I was able to ignore it, knowing that he was stressed. He calmed down at home after about 45 min.
First off, husband addressed the issue of getting up difficult child in the a.m. and arguing about taking his pill. It is a totally nonnegotiable item. Basket A. He gave husband a really hard time over the weekend, gave me a hard time, and got in a fight with-his friends last Fri. after orientation. So it's (his anger, whatever) overflowing the family spot and affecting his outside relationships. At any rate, husband said, "Now, you're not going to give me a hard time in the a.m. when you take your pill."
And difficult child replied, "I don't know. It depends upon how I feel."
Say what?!
That was a half hr discussion.
The other half was about lying to both the psychiatric and husband about the panties, and telling the police the truth.
Of course, difficult child said he was embarrassed and didn't want to talk about it, so lying was an avoidance tactic. He just couldn't see the logic and expediency in that telling the truth will get it overwith, and lying makes for other lies, which perpetuates the whole thing and drags it out. Not to mention that it's dishonest.
No surprise that he's home this a.m. with-a stomach ache. I think he's still stressed from yesterday.