Wow. Well this week has just sucked. difficult child 1 is in 7th grade, attending a part day alternative school and had been doing pretty good. Well, he now has a new "friend" at school and it is wreaking havoc on my life!!! There have been many times, many meltdowns and tantrums where I have been unable to determine if it is Mental Health or Behavioral. This past week, I saw the very clear behavioral picture. difficult child wanted to stay the night at his new friends house...ON A SCHOOL NIGHT! Big no-go in our house, so I say "no". He starts texting his pleadings, I keep saying "no". I go to pick him up at our agreed pick-up time and he refuses to come out of the house. So, I'm sitting in the car and I know what's coming...I feel it in my stomach. After texting him that my next stop would be the Sherrif's office, he finally comes out of the house and he is ANGRY. We drive home and he refuses to get out of the car so I think to myself, that's fine, but when I walk away he starts beating and kicking the dashboard...so I go to his door and manage to get it open and order him out of the car. He gets out and runs. For the hour that he is gone, I know I have to be proactive...I called the local mental health crisis line and get advice (he's run before) so they tell me to call the police and report him missing to establish his habits of running. I ask lots of questions about what I should be doing, etc, etc... An hour later he comes back...but he is not done being mad! Within about 30 minutes of him stewing and brewing, he starts trashing my house. I mean EVERYTHING trashed! I call 911. I swear, it took them freakng forever to get to my place, or at least it seemed that way. I spent the time protecting myself and the other 2 children, and by the time the police got to my house, it looked like a hurricane had hit it. There was not one thing left unturned or thrown. So, they handcuffed him and off they went. I cried, and cleaned and cuddled my other 2, and then had to go all the way down to the detention center to deliver his medications which did not make me happy. So they keep him just one night because it's his first incident but he'll be forced to do mandatory anger management and therapy. Can I just say, that probation officer better call with our appointment soon because he is making me crazy!!! No joke, within a couple of hours of being home, he starts asking about going back to the friends house!!! Really?? UGH!! And it's been every day since, that's all he talks about, all he wants..tonight he almost blew again but managed to avoid it just barely...all over this "friend"! I'm in for a long week and I'm guessing many of you will tell me this is only the beginning.