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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 627788" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Keep going to Al-Anon Stress Bunny. All of us crawl in there wanting someone, anyone to tell us what to do to get them to stop and to make it all stop hurting so much, but there is nobody anywhere who can truly tell you what to do.</p><p></p><p>You have to learn what to do.</p><p></p><p>Al-Anon is the place that you will learn so much over time about what to do. But you have to be patient, and you have to keep going back.</p><p></p><p>You have to be ready to truly change.</p><p></p><p>The first time I went to Al-Anon, I stayed for about 18 months (this was over my husband, now ex, who is now a recovering alcoholic) but I didn't really hear or take in what Al-Anon had to offer. I wasn't ready.</p><p></p><p>This last time I went back about 4 years ago and I was so ready. This was over my son, my difficult child. I have stayed this time and I have been ready to take in, soak in, all that Al-Anon has to offer.</p><p></p><p>Al-Anon has saved my life, and I continue to work the program. I believe I will for the rest of my life. </p><p></p><p>I also use other tools, like this board, other books that are not Al-Anon books, etc. </p><p></p><p>You can get a sponsor in Al-Anon and it is recommended. That person will listen to you and will gently guide you, again respecting your choices and your life but will guide you into better decision-making. It feels like advice at times. It is wonderful to have a sponsor.</p><p></p><p>The groups are full of great, authentic, mature people who have suffered and are coming through it all. They have suffered just like we suffer. Just like you are suffering. </p><p></p><p>Give it another try, Stress. Go to lots of different meetings until you start to feel better. It is a wonderful free resource. You will get back as much as you put into it. I truly believe that.</p><p></p><p>Hugs for you this morning. I am so sorry. Please---start thinking about what is best for you now. You are seeing things and moving forward in your acceptance of reality. Of what is. </p><p></p><p>JT is going to do whatever he is going to do. That is clear. </p><p></p><p>Now, it's time for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 627788, member: 17542"] Keep going to Al-Anon Stress Bunny. All of us crawl in there wanting someone, anyone to tell us what to do to get them to stop and to make it all stop hurting so much, but there is nobody anywhere who can truly tell you what to do. You have to learn what to do. Al-Anon is the place that you will learn so much over time about what to do. But you have to be patient, and you have to keep going back. You have to be ready to truly change. The first time I went to Al-Anon, I stayed for about 18 months (this was over my husband, now ex, who is now a recovering alcoholic) but I didn't really hear or take in what Al-Anon had to offer. I wasn't ready. This last time I went back about 4 years ago and I was so ready. This was over my son, my difficult child. I have stayed this time and I have been ready to take in, soak in, all that Al-Anon has to offer. Al-Anon has saved my life, and I continue to work the program. I believe I will for the rest of my life. I also use other tools, like this board, other books that are not Al-Anon books, etc. You can get a sponsor in Al-Anon and it is recommended. That person will listen to you and will gently guide you, again respecting your choices and your life but will guide you into better decision-making. It feels like advice at times. It is wonderful to have a sponsor. The groups are full of great, authentic, mature people who have suffered and are coming through it all. They have suffered just like we suffer. Just like you are suffering. Give it another try, Stress. Go to lots of different meetings until you start to feel better. It is a wonderful free resource. You will get back as much as you put into it. I truly believe that. Hugs for you this morning. I am so sorry. Please---start thinking about what is best for you now. You are seeing things and moving forward in your acceptance of reality. Of what is. JT is going to do whatever he is going to do. That is clear. Now, it's time for you. [/QUOTE]
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