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<blockquote data-quote="everywoman" data-source="post: 46616" data-attributes="member: 1436"><p>"It all seems so random. I find myself wondering if anything that we do as an intervention really has any impact at all? Is a difficult child's ultimate fate genetically predetermined?"</p><p></p><p></p><p>I, too, have been pondering this quetion more frequently lately. difficult child has had more intervention than many of my students at school who are far less intelligent than he is and they seem to function quite fine. Is the issue mental illness or drug addiction?? Which needs to be addressed first? If he didn't abuse drugs, would the MI still cause him to do "illogical" and illegal things? </p><p></p><p>My husband has a cousin "Les" who has been a difficult child his entire life. His brother committed suicide in the early 80's when Les was a young teen. The brother was diagnosed with severe Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)---but I imagine there were missed diagnosis. Les went through public school, went to college, but never held a job in his entire life except 6 months as a motel desk clerk because he had probation for a drug charge. His mother was a school teacher and his father was a well-repsected elected county official. His mother and father protected him as long as they could. He began using drugs in the 80's and continued for the next two decades. His father died in early 2000. He and his mother was left alone. His mother was in bad health and Les was left to care for her. At one point, in 2004, DSS intervened because of possible neglect. The family all came together and tried to help. Les's mom didn't want anyone mistreating her son, so she fought all in-home help. In July of 06, Les was arrested for elderly neglect in connection with the death of his mother. The coroner and the mortician have both told me they have never seen anything like it. He was found quilty in April of this year. He was sentenced to 25 years in prison. He is 48 years old. He has no one left. The druggie friends he ran with for years have disappeared (after they broke in a stole most of his belongings). The family who tried to help get help after the first neglect charge was made and got "egg" thrown in their faces have disappeared. He is all alone in a world that his mother helped create. Genetically he had issues similar to my difficult child and other difficult children in this family. I grieve the future my difficult child may face. I see in Les what could be---and it scares the heck out of me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="everywoman, post: 46616, member: 1436"] "It all seems so random. I find myself wondering if anything that we do as an intervention really has any impact at all? Is a difficult child's ultimate fate genetically predetermined?" I, too, have been pondering this quetion more frequently lately. difficult child has had more intervention than many of my students at school who are far less intelligent than he is and they seem to function quite fine. Is the issue mental illness or drug addiction?? Which needs to be addressed first? If he didn't abuse drugs, would the MI still cause him to do "illogical" and illegal things? My husband has a cousin "Les" who has been a difficult child his entire life. His brother committed suicide in the early 80's when Les was a young teen. The brother was diagnosed with severe Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)---but I imagine there were missed diagnosis. Les went through public school, went to college, but never held a job in his entire life except 6 months as a motel desk clerk because he had probation for a drug charge. His mother was a school teacher and his father was a well-repsected elected county official. His mother and father protected him as long as they could. He began using drugs in the 80's and continued for the next two decades. His father died in early 2000. He and his mother was left alone. His mother was in bad health and Les was left to care for her. At one point, in 2004, DSS intervened because of possible neglect. The family all came together and tried to help. Les's mom didn't want anyone mistreating her son, so she fought all in-home help. In July of 06, Les was arrested for elderly neglect in connection with the death of his mother. The coroner and the mortician have both told me they have never seen anything like it. He was found quilty in April of this year. He was sentenced to 25 years in prison. He is 48 years old. He has no one left. The druggie friends he ran with for years have disappeared (after they broke in a stole most of his belongings). The family who tried to help get help after the first neglect charge was made and got "egg" thrown in their faces have disappeared. He is all alone in a world that his mother helped create. Genetically he had issues similar to my difficult child and other difficult children in this family. I grieve the future my difficult child may face. I see in Les what could be---and it scares the heck out of me. [/QUOTE]
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