Well, I let difficult child go to HIS Sunday School today. The reason being is that he and J were the only students. I told the teacher that the two were involved in a tiff and planning a fight tomorrow after school. So, the teacher spoke to both of them about fighting. The teacher is a prosecuting attorney who raised sons of his own and is very involved with the Boy Scout organization - lots of knowledge and experiences. He opened the lesson up with the question, "Is it illegal to fight?" difficult child is not sharing much of the details but feels good about the "lesson". The teacher than told them that he had heard they were planning a fight. J said he was only kidding (I told difficult child that you do not joke about that type of thing). I hope they both came away with some knowledge of a better way! Time will tell! Cool that they got to spend 45 minutes in a room together with a neutral mediator and talk about it. I know it went well because difficult child is calm, relaxed, happy. If it had not gone well, difficult child would be enraged and talking negatively about both difficult child and the teacher.