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<blockquote data-quote="GuideMe" data-source="post: 640670" data-attributes="member: 18233"><p>That is such great advice 2m2r, you are so right. I was sitting outside earlier thinking to myself, it's not too late for a change and I never am able to think positive like that. I feel like that came from God himself and to hear you say what I was thinking earlier reaffirms it. I might not have been a good example in the past, but I can start to be one right now. I pray to have normal interactions with my daughter one day. I am not saying she has to change how she feels, but the aggressiveness in her dealings with me definitely needs to stop regardless of what I did in the past. I know parents who have done far worse than me but their kids don't make them walk around in fear and I can at least expect that much from her. It not only hurts me and it not only hurts her when she acts this way, but it also makes us look really, really, really bad in front of other people. If you guys actually saw it with your own eyes, you would see what I mean. It's not good at all. I am tired of us being the butt of the jokes, people looking down on us, etc. etc. It doesn't need to be this way. I don't know any parent/child who acts like this in public and IT HAS TO STOP!!!! AND it has to stop behind closed doors as well, no doubt. But stopping this behavior in public will be a good place to start. I wish I can make her understand how utterly bad it makes us look, especially her and the humiliation that it causes me is absolutely 100% traumatizing for me. When we are out , no matter where it may be, she talks to me like I am a piece of crap and very aggressively when she is angry. It's horrid and I see strangers shaking their heads all the time and when she does it in front of my family, it crushes me. Major, major blows. I have to make it clear to her somehow , in a way her young mind understands, that I AM NOT TOLERATING THIS ANYMORE AND I CAN'T BE AROUND YOU IF I DON'T FEEL SAFE. I texted her last night about how upset it made me and she said "um, ok, you are so over reacting. You take things to sensitively" You got to be kidding me, she really does not see it at all and I know I am not crazy because people have be commenting about it for YEARS, everyone knows it, but when she says things like that, it really does make me question my own sanity!</p><p></p><p>Anyway, let me try and calm down. It's still pretty raw for me but I think I'm starting to see the light a little bit today. I loved everything that you said, and everyone else as well. Little by little, centimeter by centimeter, I'm going to figure this out somehow with the help of all of you. All of you are what makes me feel better at the end of the day and that I'm not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GuideMe, post: 640670, member: 18233"] That is such great advice 2m2r, you are so right. I was sitting outside earlier thinking to myself, it's not too late for a change and I never am able to think positive like that. I feel like that came from God himself and to hear you say what I was thinking earlier reaffirms it. I might not have been a good example in the past, but I can start to be one right now. I pray to have normal interactions with my daughter one day. I am not saying she has to change how she feels, but the aggressiveness in her dealings with me definitely needs to stop regardless of what I did in the past. I know parents who have done far worse than me but their kids don't make them walk around in fear and I can at least expect that much from her. It not only hurts me and it not only hurts her when she acts this way, but it also makes us look really, really, really bad in front of other people. If you guys actually saw it with your own eyes, you would see what I mean. It's not good at all. I am tired of us being the butt of the jokes, people looking down on us, etc. etc. It doesn't need to be this way. I don't know any parent/child who acts like this in public and IT HAS TO STOP!!!! AND it has to stop behind closed doors as well, no doubt. But stopping this behavior in public will be a good place to start. I wish I can make her understand how utterly bad it makes us look, especially her and the humiliation that it causes me is absolutely 100% traumatizing for me. When we are out , no matter where it may be, she talks to me like I am a piece of crap and very aggressively when she is angry. It's horrid and I see strangers shaking their heads all the time and when she does it in front of my family, it crushes me. Major, major blows. I have to make it clear to her somehow , in a way her young mind understands, that I AM NOT TOLERATING THIS ANYMORE AND I CAN'T BE AROUND YOU IF I DON'T FEEL SAFE. I texted her last night about how upset it made me and she said "um, ok, you are so over reacting. You take things to sensitively" You got to be kidding me, she really does not see it at all and I know I am not crazy because people have be commenting about it for YEARS, everyone knows it, but when she says things like that, it really does make me question my own sanity! Anyway, let me try and calm down. It's still pretty raw for me but I think I'm starting to see the light a little bit today. I loved everything that you said, and everyone else as well. Little by little, centimeter by centimeter, I'm going to figure this out somehow with the help of all of you. All of you are what makes me feel better at the end of the day and that I'm not alone. [/QUOTE]
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