difficult child Views on Medication - AAARRRGGGHHH!!!

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by DaisyFace, Nov 20, 2011.

  1. DaisyFace

    DaisyFace Love me...Love me not

    "No, Mom - I haven't stopped taking my medication....

    I just don't take it."

    Well, you have an appointment to see the doctor for a medication check next week. What do we tell him?

    Blank look: "What do you mean? Tell him exactly what I said."

  2. exhausted

    exhausted Active Member

    What is wrong with us that we just cannot follow the disturbing path of a teenage frontal cortex?? Holy cow! We must be sane!!!:consoling:
  3. cubsgirl

    cubsgirl Well-Known Member

    Wow! She's living in an alternate reality isn't she!
  4. buddy

    buddy New Member

    Scary thing is, I found myeslf trying to figure it out... LOL

    I was thinking ... well maybe she means she is not doing the start stop thing... she just quit period...not gonna do it.

    then I thought, Dee, duh... bottom line here is all that matters.... I dont know why, I just found myself trying to figure her thinking out.
  5. TeDo

    TeDo Guest

    Buddy, don't feel bad. I was doing the same thing. It is our new nature. It is a learned adaptive behavior stemming from situational factors of our environment (having difficult child's) that is needed to survive. Whew. As difficult child 1 would say, don't I just sound "smartical".

    DF, let us know what the psychiatrist says when difficult child tells him she just doesn't take her medications. I would be very curious to hear about his reaction. Good luck.

  6. pepperidge

    pepperidge New Member

    I think she means she hasn't made a conscious, rational, informed decision to stop taking her medication, but rather that she couldn't be bothered to take it for no particularly logical or good reason...can we spell difficult child?! Sorry.....
  7. buddy

    buddy New Member

    yes pepper, I think that seems a good description, haha

    (way off topic... I just noticed I became a maniac here...LOL)
  8. Bunny

    Bunny Guest

    Definately something that a difficult child would say.

    Good luck at the medication check next week.
  9. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    I am sure interested to know what her explanation will be to psychiatrist, because I am sure psychiatrist will ask what she means!
  10. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    ...Yup, she's sharing a brain with Onyxx...

    Maybe Onyxx's Residential Treatment Center (RTC) will come through to difficult child too???!
  11. klmno

    klmno Active Member

  12. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Oh, dear. Yes, I would have her repeat that verbatim to the dr.
    So sorry, DF.
  13. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    Wow...just...wow. Tell the doctor exactly what she said and let HIM figure it out.
  14. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    DF... take it at face value. Including the split between refusing to/stopping/just not taking...

    Obviously, SHE doesn't see/feel any or enough benefit to be worth the effort.

    Some kids are only interested in medications that have impact THEY can measure... it affects which ones we try, and how high we start at... because we have to get a "hit rate" really fast... need the benefits before or as soon as the side-effects. 'Cause if the side effects are noticable (i.e. not life-threatening, but affects how difficult child has to live, like not gettin up quickly from a chair...), and the benefits are NOT noticable... the tendency is to end up with some form of refusal (either outright refusal, or "forgetting").

    And yes, bring this up to the psychiatrist. Whatever she needs to take, needs to be worth it for HER.
  15. Marguerite

    Marguerite Active Member

    We were getting difficult child 3 to organise his own medications and take them himself, but he was getting later and later, more and more lax with resultant behaviour problems. So I've gone back to waking him in the morning with his pills and watching him take them. He goes back to sleep for a little while but at least I know the medications are on board.

    The difference is - GF3 is not medication-resistant.

  16. DaisyFace

    DaisyFace Love me...Love me not

    Yes - I think this is it exactly.

    And the part that makes me so %$&^*^ mad about this?

    I made a stink down at County MH to get difficult child a medication-check appointment! She had been monitered every three months...and then due to staff and budget cuts, clients were cut to being seen ONCE A YEAR. I think this is incredibly irresponsible - especially when these CHILDREN are being given powerful drugs. So I complained and made a big scene to get this appointment...

    and now I have to go in and tell them "Oh, no, difficult child hasn't stopped taking her medication - she just doesn't take it. Should we adjust the dosage?"
  17. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Argh! You're stuck between a rock and a hard place. I feel for you.
  18. DaisyFace

    DaisyFace Love me...Love me not


    But I fixed it....

    I called County MH today and asked them to relay a message directly to the prescribing doctor "difficult child wants you to know that she didn't stop taking her medication - she's just not taking it....therefore she does not need a "medication-check" at this time."

    OK - no need for me to run around like crazy to get difficult child to her appointment.
  19. Marg's Man

    Marg's Man Member

    I'm surprised Marg didn't mention it.

    We had a heck of a time with difficult child 1 for a while. He couldn't see the need for his medications so he stopped taking them, palming them to avoid it. Naturally his behaviour deteriorated but he still couldn't see a problem although he had noticed that the number of a**holes around him had increased. Why was that? HE felt fine but WE wanted to kill him! We used to say "You take them for your health. No; you won't get sick if you don't take your medications but they stop other people from wanting to hurt you."

    The very fact that a kid needs the medications shows that they are not able to discern the need for them.

    Marg's Man
  20. klmno

    klmno Active Member