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<blockquote data-quote="HeadlightsMom" data-source="post: 636382" data-attributes="member: 18284"><p>Hi all. Just visited with difficult child. He's doing well (31 days clean and sober now, he says). He clearly looks better and sounds better. It is interesting gradually removing the addiction puzzle piece of whatever his "whole" is that makes him....well, frankly....HIM. It does remove a big portion of it. However, clearly it's not the only slice of what makes him HIM. Still suspect personality disorders and bipolar weave through. I'm no MD/PhD, but that's that the MD's and PhD's have told us in the past.</p><p></p><p>Strange..... We have so little to say to each other. He was VERY excited to see us at first. And we, equally, were very excited to see him. He's genuinely working the program and has evidence to show it. But our visits really are best left short. We visited for over an hour, but it was clear that we really only had maybe 30-min of things to say to each other. AND THAT'S OK. Really. IF that's what keeps it healthy and happy, then THAT'S WHAT KEEPS IT HEALTHY AND HAPPY. LEAVE THAT WISE BOUNDARY IN PLACE.</p><p></p><p>FYI -- I told him about all of the spiel around the metal briefcase. He didn't mind, didn't flinch, didn't anything. Just said, "Ok.....I understand." AGAIN, IT PAYS TO BE CRYSTAL CLEAR WITH BOUNDARIES.</p><p></p><p>That being said, things being what they are..........All in all, we're grateful for a sober, non-fighting day!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HeadlightsMom, post: 636382, member: 18284"] Hi all. Just visited with difficult child. He's doing well (31 days clean and sober now, he says). He clearly looks better and sounds better. It is interesting gradually removing the addiction puzzle piece of whatever his "whole" is that makes him....well, frankly....HIM. It does remove a big portion of it. However, clearly it's not the only slice of what makes him HIM. Still suspect personality disorders and bipolar weave through. I'm no MD/PhD, but that's that the MD's and PhD's have told us in the past. Strange..... We have so little to say to each other. He was VERY excited to see us at first. And we, equally, were very excited to see him. He's genuinely working the program and has evidence to show it. But our visits really are best left short. We visited for over an hour, but it was clear that we really only had maybe 30-min of things to say to each other. AND THAT'S OK. Really. IF that's what keeps it healthy and happy, then THAT'S WHAT KEEPS IT HEALTHY AND HAPPY. LEAVE THAT WISE BOUNDARY IN PLACE. FYI -- I told him about all of the spiel around the metal briefcase. He didn't mind, didn't flinch, didn't anything. Just said, "Ok.....I understand." AGAIN, IT PAYS TO BE CRYSTAL CLEAR WITH BOUNDARIES. That being said, things being what they are..........All in all, we're grateful for a sober, non-fighting day! [/QUOTE]
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